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writes:Ok, well, I'm 19 and I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 weeks now. We have been friends for a couple years now and are both virgins. Everytime I see him I can't help but smile and I find him to be a complete turn on pretty much all the time. My problem is when he kisses me I get so uncomfortbale down there its ridiculous. Last time we were at his house and we watched a movie at his house and afterwards we were just sitting there on his couch. Eventually, he ended up on top of me somewhat (one leg on each side) but over me still. He started to kiss my neck and I could feel his body on mine which just drove me wild. He looked in my eyes and noticed they changed color and he wanted to know why. I told him because I was turned on but I was kinda embarrassed to admit but he told me it was nothing to be ashamed of and was like "You think I'm not?" So, pretty much whenever I see him and even do the simple things just like kissing I already feel soo amazing...amazing to the point that I feel like crying. Don't even get me started when I see him in his uniform for his extracurricular sports. I know that he is the one that will be making the moves especially since he said that is how its suppose to be which I'm not fighting about...fine by me. haha But, how do I let him know that he can go forward and make the step without being forward? In addition, how do I contain those sexual feelings where I am just soo giggly and get total goosebumps if he even touches my neck? Do guys like it when girls express those things? Not in words but well... you know.Anything would be helpful...you have no idea! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks HaileyBurger, everytime we have I end up on sitting on him either because he pulls me onto him or because I want to. I'm just afraid that he will be like "Wow, umm..." or the only other outcome could be "Wow, continue..." if I start to guide his hands. Oh, as for taking control I would loveeeee to do that but I am never able to do it while in the moment but have no problem imagining it...I'm not sure how to surpass that. Soo, yeah.
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reader, HaileyBurger  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 I also talked to my husband in what he likes and his reply was that he likes when I take control and show him what I like. Today is not the old age where the guy gets all the fun, Why don't you go and sit on him this time kiss him everywhere that's HOT and like I said take his hand and you do what you want him to, he will get the rhythm and go on with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks soo much, is there anything other advice you have because I love what you offered "Haileyburger" :)
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reader, HaileyBurger +, writes (29 April 2010):
Why don't you start first meaning when he is kissing you or on top of you start touching him beginning from the top or take his hand and you with it what you want believe me he will het the picture, good luck
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Well, sorry. Your post gave me the impression that you wanted to "go for it" as in "having sex".
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, we are not in any way looking to have sex. We are still in that area where we have tickle fights and such...more to get our hands on one another, which is why we watch scary movies for example since I hold on to him for dear life. haha More of what I was wondering was how do I let him know that yeah he can kiss me and more...? not sex.
Thanks though.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (28 April 2010):
Guys do like it when a girl expresses those things and gets the goosebumps and all that.
So you want to have sex but don't want to openly invite it. Well, when he's kissing you and all that, if he wants to go away, ask him to stay, and kiss him a tad more boldly than you otherwise would. Keep doing that, and things will slowly escalate but you'll still be able to claim "you both lost control".
I understand why you can be afraid of being the one who suggets you have sex. In the future, let yourself be in control of what you want and what don't want to do.
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