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writes:I have been on this site before, as I have been going through a traumatic time in personal life. It was all to do with a relationship that i came out of which has affected severlyI split up with this girl last year, and i have been finding it very difficult to let go. Everything has been so disproportinate that is has effected my studies at drama college.I find it very difficult to focus; there have been times when i am ok but most of the time i have been feeling very low. I have been feeling very low for the past year. I find it very difficut to interact with my friends and collegues though i like them i find it very difficult to trust anyone and that includes myself.I want to let go of the past but i am finding it extremely to do so. There have been times my feelings have felt so bad that i want to end it all.I am allowing time to heal, but it isn't quick enough particularly when i am trying to concentrate on my acting course.How do i let go?
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reader, siren_guj  +, writes (12 March 2008):
Dost,
Think about present moment, past as no value. future nobody knows, forget old relations try for new one you will find roses, roses and roses
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 March 2008):
My method is Kick up the Arse therapy.
You are an actor so this will be easy. You have convinced yourself that you are in this terrible state caused by deep seated emotional trauma.
From now on:
1. You are allowed to be pathetic and hug pillows ONLY WHEN ALONE in the house
2. When you walk out of your front door, you will now get into the character of a strong minded James Bond type person, who women want and men want to be. You will stay in Character ALL DAY. This includes when James Bond would go out for drinks after work and chat to lots of new people and be uber cool.
If you sit and let your emotions to get to you then they will, if you push back and don't take the crap from them, they will go away.
I have no doubt that there will be people who will tell you to go and get therapy and various pills. But do you really need to go that far.
Kick yourself up the bum, take a deep breath and embrace life.
Good Luck x
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 hey well i knw its hard to forget soomeone wen ur totally in love with them but remember ITS ONLY HARD AND NOT IMPOSSIBLE..everyone dates breaks up this is all part and parcel of ur life..the girl u dated as moved on then y are u stuck in the same place.by behaving like this ur hurting ur beloved ones who r still with u n want to c u happy..all u have to do is try n get over it..start dating go clubbing enjoy life..its not that u will never fall in love again..so hun go 4 it..tc
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Do you do any sports at all?? I am asking because it can be a great way to get your mind off things. Having drama classes and other "non-active" activities is a good start - but if it isn't helping, try something different. Its not a secret that doing sports releases endorphines - the "happy" hormones, I assume you aren't having much of a sex life, so no endorphines comming from there. Try it! I went through some rough patches myself some time ago, as I lived in a relatively warm country I decided to take up running - joined towns runners club, it did wonders! I slimmed down, toned up, and i cheered up!
Oh by the way - pool, darts and other sports that are indoors and include drinking beer dont count! Do the real stuff - jogging, cycling, rowing!
Anyways, its just an idea.
Hope youll feel better soon :)
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