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writes: Hi aunts, My mom has a bit of a problem with my little brother's girlfriend. She is 16 but a very imature 16 and when she's out she keeps flushing sanitary towels down the toilet resulting in it getting blocked and the pipes blocked also. She wants to know how can she say bring up the subject with her, with out embarrassing the poor girl about it??? Has anyone been in that situation or have any ideas on what to do? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a mil for your answers and replies. I'll pass those suggestions on to my mom and see whats the best way to approach it from there and let you know what the outcome of it was :)
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (12 March 2008):
Birdynumnums has got the right idea.
Put a note up on the wall in the loo.
"Who ever flushed the sanitary pads down the loo owes us 50 quid in plumer's fees as they blocked the pipes up. They go IN THE BIN!!"
Good Luck x
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 If you are still at home, perhaps you could pull her aside and tell her. Your Mom would really appreciate it, and it would let her off the hook a bit, especially if she already is worried and uncomfortable about telling her because she is immature and might possibly would take it the wrong way. Being a potential Mother-In-Law is fraught with a lot of pitfalls, and your Mom probably wants to start off on the right foot. Your intervening could save her, in case the girlfriend becomes the daughter-in-law.
She might not know that this is causing a problem. She might also be embarrassed to leave something in the garbage can in your bathroom, or leave evidence in front of your brother that she is menstruating - but having said that, she should be made aware that it is causing damage to your Mother's home.
Get some brown paper lunch bags and leave them on top of the toilet. You can leave a little note on top of them, just like at a public restroom, that says "Ladies, please use the bags provided to dispose of any feminine products. Flushing them causes damage and blocks the pipes." If you ever do go out to a public restroom with her, it would also be an opportunity to bring up the subject. "Can you believe that some people flush pads? I guess their Mothers didn't tell them how to dispose of there pads properly! I was always taught to roll them up and surround them with toilet paper, but now it's possible to roll them in the plastic wrapper from your new pad!". Hope that there was an idea here that helped.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (12 March 2008):
 " Hello there gf of my son. you know sanitary towels don't get flushed right?"
a little embarrasment will do her good. will make her remember not to do it and not to feel like an idiot.
Hell lets just hope she's putting them in the right hole.
i know its heartless but. she'll remember turning red over and and won't do it again.
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reader, mckenzie09 +, writes (12 March 2008):
hey i havnt been in this situation before but, i used to be very immature when i was younger, i think that she and you brother both need a hobby to do that will help them to get into her adult side, you mother may need to threaten her in not being able to see your brother as much until she has learnt to respect what she is doing to the public, if she hasnt got a job get her to apply for one or help her to get into college, because if she is around people that act more mature than her she may realise that acting the way she does isnt going to get her anywhere in life i was like that for too long and stress made me realise i had to grow up a bit i was sick of having me have a go at me i thought this was for no reason but then i realise i needed something to do to make me feel like an adult....maybe you could spend some time with her talk to her a bit and see if you can get her to express her adulthood a bit maybe having girly chats and doing her hair...x
good luck hunny
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Hehehe - prettend ur house toilet is a public place and leave a sign - please leave sanitary towels in the bin. Ok, ok, im joking, I think your mum will have to talk to her about it - not in a nasty way of course, just pick time when its only her and ur bros gf in the room and tell her that she will have to throw everything in the bin as the pipes get blocked. Dont think it can be put any other way, its how your mum will say it - just try to be discreet about it. Sorry if i havent been of much help here, its ridiculous how some parents bring up their children!
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