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writes:I am torn and in need of advice. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and was told that he had cheated on me in September of 2009. Just recently he stopped denying it and told me the truth that he did indeed cheat with his ex girlfriend from a long time ago. It was only once but I am devastated. He says that he is truly sorry and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Oh, did I forget to mention that the girl he cheated on me with is pregnant and due the end of May? I truly love him and I believe he loves me just as much, But I can't get passed the feelings of betrayal, which will only get worse when she gives birth. My questin is, how do I get over this and continue our relationship?
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reader, z09a  +, writes (16 March 2010):
hmm well thats really sad to hear. an i can honestly say i kno how you feel. well my ex cheated on me like a mth after we got together with his sister's friend. she got pregnant and says the child is his. and i can tell you, dealing with baby mama drama is not wat u would want to deal with for the rest of your life. the child is 4yrs now an i broke up wit las week monday him since i found out that he has been visiting the child behind my back, lied wen i asked if he did. an 2 c the pics of him all smiles with that little girl, hurts. i never wanted to have a man with a child an now i have to still deal with him for the rest of my life. we have an 8mth old son together. i mean apart from everything else, he's a great guy. but how can a relationship be good without trust. i should have left wen i had the chance but i was 2 in love an stil is an now i have to deal with this for the rest of my life.he told me that he do not think the child is his, that s why i decided to stay. an since we were together for like 3 yrs an i never came out pregnant, i truly believed that she wasnt his. well in oct 2008, i got pregnant. i mean its nice for a man to be there for his child, but pretending dat u dont think she's your, doin like u dont want to have anything to do wit her (its not nice) but dats like living a double life.i would advice you, 2 forget him wen u have a chance 2. who knows, later on u can find a guy who will be respectful, caring, loving, trustworthy, u name it. u can find ur prince charming. u dont need dis...trust me, its not nice!
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 So she is pregnant with his baby? Oh my.
If you are prepared to share him with his ex-gf's child and also his ex-gf, then by all means, continue this relationship. It will hurt, and you shouldn't have to pay for what he has done.
If it were me, I would be out of there quick-sticks. I can't stand cheaters. You are setting yourself up for future heartache if you stay with him.
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