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*erbabygirl
writes:So I'm new to this, I'm divorced and in my 30's and completely in love with my girlfriend! This is my first and hopefully only same sex relationship. She's younger then I but way more experienced. I want to make love to her as passionately as she does me but I don't know how :( and I feel like she gets frustrated even though she says it's ok that I don't know everything just yet. What can I do to catch on more quickly?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (4 July 2013):
Hi. You're very welcome.
Hope it all goes well.
Just relax and go with the flow, and also be honest in what you like and dislike.
And you really can't go wrong, I promise you.
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reader, Herbabygirl +, writes (1 July 2013):
Herbabygirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Dorothy :)
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (1 July 2013):
Hi there. As this is your first same sex relationship, it is all new to you at the moment.
Nevertheless, a clue to making love to another female, is to do the things to her, that you love being done to you.
You already know what you enjoy when it comes to making love, and so just try those things on her, and the chances are, that she being a female also, will enjoy those very same things herself.
And just take your cue from what she does to you, and this will provide some clues for you in pleasuring her.
The main thing though, is to not overthink things and doubt yourself, as this will simply get in the way of your enjoyment and hers.
You could try on her what you enjoy having done to you, and see her reaction and whether she appears to be enjoying it or not.
And if she appears to not be feeling aroused by those techniques of yours, well then why not come right out and ask her what she would like you to do.
I mean, there is nothing quite like the direct approach, of just asking someone what they like.
And then you get a straight answer.
Or else, she might even guide your hand to where she wants to be touched.
In the very same way as a man would guide a woman's hand to where and how he wants to be touched, and perhaps a few words, just to clarify it a little more.
It is no different at all, really.
Until you get to know a sexual partner better, you are just learning as you go along.
And by that, I mean, learning what they like and what they don't like.
And not everyone likes the same things.
And so each time you start a new relationship with someone, it will be slightly different from the last partner, or the one before that.
The wisest thing you could possibly do, is to simply relax and go with the flow, and with what feels right to both of you.
And of course, it is essential that you don't pretend to like something that doesn't turn you on at all, as the other person is then just wasting their time, and they will sense that you don't really enjoy whatever they are doing then, anyway.
And so it is just as important to let someone know clearly, what you DON'T like.
Or if something feels painful, or uncomfortable in any way.
And when you are honest in the bedroom, both people feel good about themselves, and neither partner will feel self conscious.
And this is also very important.
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