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*ixieGwen
writes:They say you date people like your parents.I ended up meeting and dating someone who frustrates me as much as my mother does. We've been dating for 2 wks. We have ALOT in common and he's incredibly sweet, affectionate and likes me alot - I feel the same of course..but unfortunately we already know how to push each others buttons.He has this "know it all" tone.He asks me for opinions in video games but then when I give my opinion - he proves me wrong/shuts me down. He has to prove his point..even if its hrs or a day later. Has to have the last word. He claims the same about me - that i need the last word, that I cut him off mid sentence etc.. He said that he never means to have a tone with me and honestly wants my opinion on things etc.The other night he was extra irritable because we hadnt slept..had trouble sleeping.We were hanging at his place and He fell asleep - So i told him I was goin home and he walked me out and we were fine..just tired. I guess he thought i wouldnt want to see him again because he was being a pain n the ass that day..so he wrote me a msg apologizing and saying he hopes to see me again etc..Anyhoo.. the point of me writing this is.,. how do i become thicker skinned or brush things off? Im incredibly sensitive and try not to take things the wrong way..plus I think we have potential and we're great together..cept when we take stuff the wrong way.I know that no one is perfect and I know at some point or another ill always date someone whos gonna push my buttons or vice versa.. but i dont want to be bothered by a tone in his voice..
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (3 July 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question He says me driving to see him is temporary because he's gonna get a car in a month or so.So i dont mind doing it..but itll eventually get old (well possibly)if he doesnt get a car.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (3 July 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell he doesnt have a car at the moment but hes the one that invites me to come over all the time.calls me daily. makes me dinner etc.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (3 July 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionabout 35 min apart. i dont normally date guys who live further than 15 min away.
7 days out of 2 wks.
We have dinner, play video games, movies and then i go home.
and like now..i prob wont see him for like 3-4 days.
which is fine.
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (3 July 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou misunderstood..
we're not sleeping together.we havent had sex. He lives incredibly far from me..so we hung out that night - so we hadnt slept..and had plans to go out in the morning.at the end of the day i dropped him off.we were both exhausted & he fell asleep. I figured i should leave because we were both tired, So I did.I dont really understand how my approach is bad..considering he's the one that wants me around all the time.and we are gettin to know each other considering we talk daily.He's doing all the chasing.. and im goin along with it.
I just want to know how to be less sensitive...
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