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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): Well, It depends on how hes talking to you. Does he mention visiting your family often? Wehn you go out shopping does he mention anything about buying furniture together or any other "homely" notions? Does he ever give out signals about children - like he goes gaga when he sees a small child etc. If hes seemingly uninterested in these things then assess yourself-Is it too quick in your relationship to dwell on the thought of marriage, or are you two pretty established- have ilven together for a bit, know ins and outs of family and what not. If that is the case then bring it up with him.Ask him how he sees your future, and you might get the response you deserve.
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reader, sexylinz  +, writes (14 June 2006):
 It's different for all men. some are ready sooner than others, and the others not so soon.
Isuggest that you talk to him. dont come straight out with...are you ready or when will you be ready. ask things like " where do you see us in the future?" maybe 5 or 10 years. it all really depends on how long you have been together and how close you are to each other.
you could even ask him if he sees himself settling down n having kids etc in the futre. just try not to be too overpowering as (noot to be mean) you may scare him away.
Take ur time in asking him these things, make sure you are prepared for the answer...good or bad.
good luck hun
Lindsey xx
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (14 June 2006):
 Well i dont know how long you have been together, but each man varies, he could be happy with things the way are, alot are, there is no rush for marriage, many people can live together for years get married and all of a sudden the relatonship ends for no apparent reason. I think if he had these intentions towards you would know, maybe bring up a topic from a girlie mag and see his reaction. But dont roadrail him in to something. If he wants to commit that way he wont have any qualms in telling you. If things are really good with you, and you have mentioned what you would like for the future and it including having children etc, then good, but dont push him. Maybe have a chat, dependant on how long you have been together, see if you cant make plans toghether, ask him if he knows what he wants for the future, not just you two, but life in general, are there any goals that he wants to achieve before he setteles down, does he want to enhance a career things like that. When the time is right im sure you will both know, but it cant hurt talking about what you both want in your futures, not just you two, but how you want to grow and explore.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (14 June 2006):
 dear reader. i wouldn't like to say each man is different and if you know your b/f that well you should know when to ask or when to start dropping hints that thats what you want
good luckxxx
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reader, Yos  +, writes (14 June 2006):
 There's no formula for that, everyone is different. Your best sign is probably when he starts talking about it openly and unprompted: if he starts talking about marriage in general, or about living together, or having a family, then those are all good signs. Also, pay attention to your gut instincts: to a big degree you'll hopefully just 'feel' when its right.
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