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writes: What can help me right now? I am about to vacant the flat me and my boyfriend of 8 years bought together for half an hour so that an agent can show people round it to potentially rent it out. My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago saying he didn't think I was his soulmate anymore and there was something missing in our relationship that he couldn't quite put his finger on. Then I lost my job so I cant afford to live in the flat alone anymore(unfortunately it is only a one bed). I am gutted that after losing him and my job now I'm losing my home the one place I still felt comfortable. I saw him a couple of nights ago to discuss what we are leaving so the flat is furnished etc and I put on a very brave face so it was a very friendly calm meeting. Well it had to be because whenever anything came up about us or the past he started crying which I thought was strange seeing as he'd broke it off! He acted like he was a victim too and he couldn't stop what was happening! I want to make sure he really knows what he's doing before it's too late but I feel I cant say anything to him cos when I mention trying again he gets cross and says he cant talk to me until I've accepted the break up. I feel so sad at what we are losing especially because I don't know why .......... I just keep crying over the smallest things.
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (14 June 2006):
 dear reader. i think some counselling would help you or at least talk to some friends or family it's hard lossing one thing on your list but i can't even begin to imagen what you must be going through.
Also i think you and your ex should talk about the past togrther by the sounds of it, he hasn't got over the break up either you both need some closure on the situation.
i'm just guess but i think the reason you are crying at the drop of a hat is because you have quite a bit of time on your hands now you are out of work.
it would be so easy for me to say move on but in your case you need answers as to ahy things have ended so suddonly.
Please try and talk to him but be carefull not to preasure him he may not be ready to talk breaking up is one of the hardest things to do even if your the one calling it
i hope you find your answers quickly
good luck and keep me posted xxx
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