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writes:My bf's friends dont like me and they treat me like crap. I am not 100% sure why they dont like me, Ive never been mean to them or anything. I think its just they see me as a stereotypical "nerd" who is boring etc and a "goody goody" because I am a christian and they like to present themselves with the complete opposite image. They always make fun of me, to the point where I pretty much end up full of anxiety every weekend as I dread having to be around them. My bf broke up with me because of this, yet later changed his mind and realised what was importnat. He said he doesnt care what his friends think of me anymore and that he wants to be with me and no one else. We have been back together for a while, but everytime we see his friends or even if he sees his friends without me, I am so scared he is going to break up with me again because they still bad mouth me and dont like me and treat me badly. How do i get over this fear? and how do i know my bf WONT break up with me again for the same reason? how can i trust him again?
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reader, Hotangel  +, writes (17 December 2010):
By the way he reacted to you I say 'no'. If you have a broken heart, just move on with your life. Be honest with yourself, some one better than him will come your way. One last thing, don't force yourself too much on a guy. If a guy rejects you, don't try begging. Just let go. Every disappointment can be a blessing if he's not the right right person. Pray the right person will find you. Be very careful before moving into another relationship. Bye, Blessing.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 Hun, if your bf is with you and wants to be with you he will, regardless of what his friends say. Unfortunately if he bows to pressure from his friends then I am sure he is not going to carry on with his relationship with you.Sounds like he is being pressured to dump you, but he must really like you to still be around. If he does dump you [because his friends told him to] then is he really worth knowing, because that will show his immaturity and the fact that he will agree to anything.Be proud of who you are, you are obviously living a clean life and have morals, and if they cannot appreciate you for who you are then are they worth knowing?So lift your head up high in the knowledge that you are a better person than they are!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 January 2010):
You don't know, and he's been quite cruel in the way he treated you. You need to talk to him about how you feel and get him to reassure you a lot. I'm not even sure whether you should be with a guy who let his friends bad mouth you and then dumped you for it. I think you can do better to be honest.
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reader, Digiman  +, writes (20 January 2010):
 Hey there, anonymous I feel your pain!Unfortunately, there's no way to know or prevent someone from breaking up with you! People break up perfectly decent relationships for the DUMBEST reasons!You just have to decide, for yourself, whether you feel you can trust him or not...! There is simply NO WAY TO KNOW, honey....just no way...Love is always a gamble! So you're either willing to take the chance or not...you may get at least an inkling of what he might do, by watching with these "friends" of his (personally, they sound like no friends at all: what kind of friend disrespects your GF/BF?! Sorry, that's just not cool!)Go with your gut...perhaps that's the best you can do!Sorry if this hasn't been a help...
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