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writes:So I had sex with this guy last night. It was totally a one night stand and I'm not expecting anything out of it. I was just wondering, how do i know if he liked it or if I was bad? I wasn't laying there like a dead fish and when i gave him head he was moaning. During sex though, he was just grunting a lot and after he kind of just got up and put his clothes back on then sat on the bed. He was also kind of awkward and was like "oh look we messed my sheets up" and then he told me he had church in the morning. I was ready to leave anyway, but does that mean that the sex wasn't good?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou guys have been pretty helpful. i don't really care if he wants to pursue a further relationship. i don't want one either. i just wanted to know if i was bad or not, but he did contact me a few times afterwards trying to hang out so i guess i wasn't? hah. but thanks guys!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 If there was moaning and grunting a lot in a man during sex, it is considered good enough.He enjoyed himself.
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reader, defeated  +, writes (8 February 2010):
well lets just look at what one night stand is, just a way to have sex with someone ya dont care about.
bottom line is he just wanted to get off so you really could of been a dead fish he wouldn't of cared.
here is question for you, you gave him head, did he go down on you
and another question, do yuou know how many other one night stands he had and with who, dosent anyone remember that old tv commercial, if ya dont know what it is( or where its been in this case) dont stick it in ur face
sorry to tell ya but you where just another knotch on his belt
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reader, veronika  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 It doesn't mean he didn't like it necessarily. It was a one night stand. For all you know, it could have been his first one night stand, and felt weird or awkward about it afterwards.
I wouldn't read too much into it, it was just a one time thing. Let go and forget about it.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 February 2010):
 The basic problem is that you don't know this guy well enough to understand him. Short of asking him directly, I don't see any way to read his mind.
Is it that you want to know if you're good in bed in general, or were you hoping for more with him, even if you're not expecting it?
It could be that this guy was burned in the past by being too appreciative for good sex in the past and had to distance himself from a woman who then wanted to be his girfriend. By being brusque and not pretending that he wants a cuddle, he can get on with his next plans, whatever they are. Like getting a good night's sleep alone.
It could be that he's basically an ungrateful wretch who doesn't have the grace to be warm and appreciative to the woman who's just had his penis in her mouth. He might treat the equipment at his gym in the same way.
He might have a girlfriend and that's why there's no mention of another encounter.
Basically, though, there's no way to know for sure.
Take care.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (8 February 2010):
 Had a one night stand and then church in the morning? What a hypocritical guy. Guys should just masturbate. He came, released some tension. Sex without intimacy is always a zero to me. Can't even say thank you, what's wrong with him?
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 Oh my goodness.
Hey guys, shall we all get our heads on and rate this young lady's one night stand?
She met him, went home with him, gave him head (he did moan), had sex with him, (he did grunt), and she didn't lay like a dead fish.
But he wanted her out straight away, didn't ask for her number, and didn't suggest round two.
4 out of 10?
If you're not expecting anything out of it, why are you here?
What a weird question.
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reader, Toppo +, writes (8 February 2010):
It most likely was, but probably not as good as it could have been. Maybe the one night stand was just about a tension release, and leave it at that. Just remember, nothing is for free, there is always a balance of payments, just don't do the one night stand too often or you could loose value as to what a good relationship is about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): i personally think he probably didnt enjoy it like cuz if he did u would definently know it ..n he would want more
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 February 2010):
It just meant he wanted you out and didn't want to cuddle afterwards.
If you do the one night thing then often the guys aren't going to be nice to you afterwards.
As long as you had fun and used condoms then who cares what he thought?
Good Luck!! xx
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