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writes:I love my wife deeply, recently my wife diana of 11 years told that she has sex with 4 perosns before marriage..several times. I am amazed, when She told that twice she had Threesome, also....She tells that all story are true.. I have asked many times to Diana, and says that earlier she was afraid of me thats why she hid her secrets from me.I don't have any problem with her past... even i liked her story. The problem is she is fr conservative family.. and i don't think love games were possible for her . If i query more then she is angry. Is there any way i can know she is telling the truth. I love her too much. pl advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all for yr answers...Just 2 days back, she told me that, she had sex with her Sir, in Scouts/Guides Camp, for almost 5-6 times.. Also She added that she had sex with the Warden of the camp 3-4 times...was she sex starved before marriage... or was she a easy lay..?
Sometimes i feel excited about her stories..
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reader, lucky lynne  +, writes (23 January 2011):
 If she isn't telling the truth, it's through fear of losing you, causing an argument and it doesnt mean she would be a bad wife.She was someone else before she met you. Now she is yours. Compared to the bad partners some end up with you need to see yourself as fortunate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): If it is in fact true, why would it matter? Your wife told you this because she felt that part of her life was over. She told you because she trusted you to handle this without getting compulsive or over emotional.
Your constantly doubting her claims probably is what makes her feel badly. Talk to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOne more thing, in her stories she had sex.. with boys..but when i asked if she had oral sex with them..she denies..& says she hates to give oral sex.. On the other side she has received it..Is this can b true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): Your wife didn't tell you because she was probably ashamed of what she had done and she thought you would judge her harshly. The fact that she did tell so long after probably means she also felt badly about keeping it a secret.
I think if you asked the question on this site, "Should I share my previous casual relationship with my husband?", the overwhelming answer from men would be "No."
Similar post from a couple weeks ago:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/every-time-i-start-to-get-over-her.html
Men in general will look down on women for having casual sex and they take it personally if that woman happens to their wife.
From the way your wife told you, I suspect it was just a secret that she felt she was keeping from you. She wanted to be honest with her past and she believed you could handle it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree with view that people fr conservative family can also play games...but why did she took so long to tell the truth....anyway i m fully happy with her and love her deeply..even, now i enjoy her stories..that's why i thought if she is telling them to make me hot...or to spice our sex lives. but she denies that they are false.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): The fact that she comes from a conservative family, to me, is good evidence that her story is true. People who are raised conservative often follow their parent's direction. But if the child decides to wander past their parents boundaries, they have trouble setting their own and that line can be fairly out there. As well, children of conservatives who push that boundary often hide it from their parents. If your history is conservative or average (not out there) then she might fear that you'd react like her parents. Consider it a very good sign that she trusted you enough to tell you the truth. Unless there are other 'verifyable' signs of lying about other (non-moral) things, you should stop doubting her.
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reader, angelalb  +, writes (13 January 2011):
Has your wife ever been known to lie to you before. What brought the conversation up? Maybe she has been feelin guilty about it. Maybe she is giving you a hint. Good luck Daniele
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): Yoo said you don't mind and you thought her stories were funny, but you then also say you don't know if she is telling the truth or not. So perhaps you aren't being totally honest about your feelings. I seems it would bother you if you keep asking her if is true.I'm not sure why she told you now, but I can understand that if she opened up to you about her history and you refused to believe anything she said or hoped that it wasn't true, she may get angry that you don't trust her. She maybe angry at herself for deciding to finally share this info with you in the first place.Just because people come from conservative families, doesn't mean their children will follow suite....It's not uncommon for women in conservative families to rebel by being sexually liberal. Happens all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): If she is in love with you right now and investing in the relation just forget it. It doesn't matter wheather it is tru or not. The problem is if she is somehow into the past. Just try to find if this is true or not.
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