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writes:I am 25 years old right now going to be 26 years old this year, All 4 of my Best friends have Kids, and so i am a bit Confused about how i feel on wanting to have Kids, I feel scared when i think of me being Pregnant, I mean like i am confused on if i am Ready or not, also i might feel a little rushed because my fiance is already 49 years old he will be 50 this year, My Question is how do you know if it is a right choice to go ahead and have your first baby and is this Normal the feelings i am having on the subject of getting Pregnant?? Please also some Advice would be so very helpful.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 June 2011):
 Perfectly normal, and many women detain a tad of ambivalence about being pregnant- even during their pregnancy.
If you still feel more scared than enthusiastic at the thought of having a baby , don't rush and don't let your bf pressure you.
You are young, you still have lots of time to get pregnant, as for him, well, maybe it sounds mean, but alas it's the truth, he already would be rather old for being a dad as of now, so either he's 50 or 53 or 57, it's not that's going to make a whole lot of difference.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (9 June 2011):
 Perfectly normal, really. Not everyone feels genetically obliged to procreate.
Maybe your views will change over time, but at 25 you do have the luxury of time. Your boyfriend may think he doesn't, but it's pretty important that YOU are comfortable with the idea and ready to deal with the pressures of being a mother before going forward with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2011): You still have a long time before it gets a bit 'late' or safe to have a baby, maybe you could decide on a timeframe for deciding e.g. 5 years if we feel we want to have kids we will if not we wont.
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (9 June 2011):
 I feel the same way towards pregnancy. I am 26 and so is my fiance and we both got scared when there was a small problem a little while ago. When I found out I wasn't pregnant we were so relieved. So I guess my view on it would be to think about a what if situation. If you and your fiance had an accident and you were waiting for your period to find out if you were pregnant, would you be happy or sad if you weren't pregnant? I think if you would be even the slightest bit sad, you may want to figure out why you are scared about pregnancy. If you would be happy, you're probably not ready yet. And don't feel rushed into having children just because your fiance is almost 50. He should have known there may be a possibility you didn't want kids until later in life.
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