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writes:i have a huge problem my best friend "guy" is inlove with my boyfriend!! i know my best friend for 6 years through this years i didnt know he was gay and actually i knew my boyfriend from him and because of me they are really good friends and i hate it.i talked alot with my boyfriend telling him that this guy is gay and he is inlove with you every time i bring this out he just ignore it but im sure that my boyfriend is not gaythe problem that i dont feel comfortable when they`re together,please i need advice from anyone telling me what can i do to let my boyfriend dont know this gay guy again
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reader, rockelle  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 Whether your best friend is gay or not does not have anything to do with boundaries. Friends share a lot of things but not lovers.Have you mentioned how you feel to your friend? You say that you do not think that your boyfriend is gay so what is the problem? It sounds like you do not trust either of them. My motto There is no need to stress over things that you can not control. If he wants to cheat he will. And if you can not trust your man around your best friend then you cant trust him around anybody male/female, gay/straight. Noone can make him do anything that he does not want to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2007): Just relax! If something is going to happen then there is nothing you can do to stop it. And by saying something you could make the situation worse! Keep quiet and let them be friends, i am sure you are seeing this in a different light.
take care
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reader, aim  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 It's either:
1. You're just paranoid about your bestfriend being gay and being scared that they have something going on. They are just close friends. and no matter how gay your bestfriend is, your boy friend still respects him and appreciates him as his friend.
or
2. Worst nightmare. They indeed have something going on. You're boyfriend may be gay or bi. This could end pretty badly since he's cheating on you for another dude.
But my bet is it's just number 1. Be optimistic! You dont have any proof yet whatsoever to be scared of anything. You just have to have it in yourself to accept the fact that they are close friends. And try mingling with them and be part of the circle (not a love triangle, pls!)
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 You can not choose your bf friends! That is his choice to make! If you do not doubt your boyfriends sexuality, what is the problem with them being friends? On the other hand, this gay guy is also your friend, so I believe some trust should be involved with both of them, and some good communication also.
If, however, you are doubting your bf sexuality then you have to sit down and consider your options. can you talk about this with your bf without freaking out? Could you accept if he was bisexual or gay? If no, you need to talk to him and try to get a sincere answer from him. Watch out!
Good luck!
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