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writes:Hi, I have just started in a new relationship and i really like this new guy. He has just brought a new house and is spending allot of time on this, which i understand. We have not seen each other other allot over the last few weeks , and i keep getting hot and cold feelings from him.I dont want to bother him by asking him if he still wants to be with me or still likes me , because i know if he didnt he wouldnt be with me. I need advice how to keep it cool with him and not be to intense.He is a very hard person to read so i am finding it hard to feel secure with him.Please Help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve +, writes (4 February 2007):
 He's really busy just now with his house. Call him and ask him how things are going with it. Say to him if he needs any help from you then he only needs to ask. See what he says. If he was really keen on you he'd jump at the chance for your help if it meant he'd see you, and of course you would be together and that's the main thing.
If he keeps making excuses in the weeks to come saying his house is taking up all his time and he keeps putting your help off then I'd take it that he doesn't really want to be with you and I'd let him go and look for someone else that DOES.
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007): Well, it sounds like you two are in the beginning stages of a relationship. I think one mistake girls make is getting their hopes up and getting too clingy around a new fellow. If he has not asked you to be his one and only girlfriend, then I don't think you need to take his calls all of the time, drop everything just to fit into his schedule. If you want him to free up some of his time to accomodate you, then try being busy....and don't stop associating and dating with other guys, that shoud let him know that if he wants to win you, he needs to step up and ask you to be his girl.
Also, keeping yourself busy with your own interests and other dates, will make you feel less anxious than waiting by the phone. Don't tell him how you feel about him just yet or it will feel like pressure to him most likely, let him bring up the relationship talk first, he has to feel it is his decision even though you are sitting their dying!
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reader, Miss Optimistic +, writes (4 February 2007):
Give him space! He's probabnly tired, working all day then on the house! It will make a person grouchy and if the house needs alot doing to it then he's probably working hard.
Offer to help out with cleaning or painting. You'll get a vibe from the answer!
Take care and good luck
xx
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