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writes:Right, when your wife/gf is a teacher obviously its a stressfull job how can you help her through the stressfull times when shes tired out and getting herself upset and worked up. Because thats how my gf, soon wife to be is at the moment. Shes not one to show when shes upset or anything she tends to hold it back which she thinks makes her look like shes ok and that nothings wrong but it just make the upste show even more, also as many of you know when your upset and trying to hide it your voice tends to change and you can tell when she has tears in her eyes. She loves her job and has always wanted to do this but the stress comes with it, i know this maybe normal but how do i help her and get her to open up to me more and relax? Reply to this Question
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reader, Katie-ann +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Hello Anon,
I am a teacher and it’s a great start that you’re so understanding about the nature of our work. It is very stressful and very difficult not to get to emotionally involved with the children that we look after everyday. There may be something in particular going on at her school with a child or another teacher; ask her. Let her talk through her day, even if it seems so unimportant and irrelevant to you, it may not be to her.
For me, the best thing my partner can do when I get in, is ask how my day is; if I don’t feel like talking just now, then he will know and perhaps tell me to have a bath, glass of wine, anything!! It’s nice to have dinner cooked for you sometimes, or just go to the pub to get out of the house and have a chat.
Talk to her and tell her how her moods are making you feel, I doubt she is aware of it as she has so much going on in her head. I hope this help, take care.
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reader, duce00  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Try to develop your backrubbing skills. I know it sounds crazy but Im serious. I mean get really good at it, do some research, learn about the anatomy. This one skill has done so much in the past for me I just cant say enough about it. Most people store tension between theyre shoulder blades and neck area. Try massaging her and giving her a good home cooked meal with a nice glass of wine. Thats enough to turn even the most wound up woman into a happy kitty kat.
Also just let her unwind and talk or cry or what ever about her stressful day for a while but try to keep her from spending the whole evening on it. Pop on a good movie or start up a conversation you can both laugh at. This stuff works I swear it!
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