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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of 4 and half years wants to take a break with me for several reasons:1. He said he hasn’t been happy for a long time. We argued constantly, at least once or twice a week, for stupid things. Part of it was my anger issues, and other part was his nagging. 2. We started dating early age, so he feels like he is sort of stuck. 3. He said he feels curious about other relationship, or dating because we were first boyfriend and girlfriend. He doesn't want to date others while we're on a break though. He doesn't see us being happy together in the future right now. He says he is confused and really need time to think. From my perspective, I thought we were happy. Even though we argued quite a bit, but I thought we could work it out. I just feel very sad, and feel like I can’t breathe. I want him to come back to me, but I feel like it wouldn’t happen. Does anyone think we could still be together? Or he will come back? What do I have to do to make him come back? I’m so confused…I need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your reply!
I've talked to him few days later, and
he was being so cold and said how he was so much happier
without me, and didn't feel like he was stuck anymore.
He said more things that just stabbed right through my heart, like we were naive to think that it will last forever, etc. I finally realized that his feelings for me has gone, so I just ended it with him. I finally let him go. The love of my life, or as I thought. I am going to miss him so much, but I hope I meet someone much better than him so I can forget all about him.
Thanks again :)
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 thats a really hard place in life, and i hope i can help. you guys have been together for a long time, so there is something there, you have to believe in that. maybe the best thing to do is a trial seperation. set a time limit. one month. where you live seperatly and do other things, but do not date. maybe also suggest couples counciling during this seperation. if he is having doubts about your relationship, dont crowd him in fear of losing him. he loves you, and obviously you have what he needs, he may just be going through some personal issues. it sounds like you both may need to work through some personal things and discover yourselves. maybe try some anger management, as well as couple counciling. you need to be strong individuals to be a strong couple. dont be afraid, i believe you will make it through this.
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