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writes:ok so i have this girl i been dating for a while. she has been through somethings...in the area of abusive boyfriend...bad relationships and moms ex boyfriend almost raping her.its been many years since then and this was before i met her.i understood she has trust issues because of this and i made the mistake of kissing my ex way back when we first started dating.i cried and i told her about it but now i wish i hadnt. ever since then our relationship has been....well strange.Whenever i tried to see her she gave me false addresses and back then(8th grade)i just wanted to be the best boyfriend a girl two years older than i could have so i never put her in the wrong.But over time i got so upset i started messing around with other girls on the computer only at first...just being flirty mainly because i felt kinda confused.Im one of those guys who had fallen in love at a young age but i guess i didnt know any better to end it. she is gorgeous and has a nice personality and likes me for me. long story short over the years we have flirted with other people and too get back at one another but now im a Freshmen in college. We been through a lot and i really love her. the problem is she doesnt trust me and i dont think she ever will.In the 5 years we been dating i have never seen her...hence the flirting with other females time to time over the years.she stands me up every time she "Says" she is going to see me. And now i just dont know what to do. She said its because she doesnt trust me and at all and we have broken up but then for some reason we always find a way back to each other. Its been a phone relationship for years and i just dont know how to handle this anymore.can someone help me please? How do i go about this relationship?i think i have done what no man has done before and i have exceeded a limit of patients humanly possible!!!Me and her both know she has issues to work out apparently and she doesnt want to get professional help. According to her myself and her nana are people she expects to trust, just that she has trouble trusting me enough to spend any time with me in person.I figure this must be a cooping mechanism for people who have been through what she has been throuh but it has to end some times. she has to take risk and trust me at some point.again what should i do?or can do to actually make this relationship move even further than what ever it is now?i love her to death and i know she loves me like crazy. is not cheating and has high morals of it..especially now that she has matured and come a long way from getting back at me.if anybody can help please let me know!!this has gone far enough and i have matured and done all she has asked as a require for her to trust me
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reader, Tizzie0612 +, writes (9 January 2011):
Tizzie0612 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks :) that helped a lot. and no i have not unfortunately
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Have you ever met her in person? Is this a LDR? 5 years of never seeing her and having a phone relationship? I call that a friendship, I don't see how it's a relationship.
It's obvious this girl can't give you what you want when it comes to a relationship hence you straying and flirting with other women. She also has major issues in which she needs to seek psychiatric help on. This girl really doesn't have the mental capacity to be in a stable relationship right not. You also can't make her get professional help, she has to do that on her own.
I suggest keeping it as friends and moving on to find a girl who can meet your needs.
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