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writes:I need help. There's a single guy at work and I really like him. We seem to be looking at each other all the time, and he's got a great smile. We talk with each other so easily. I'm not saying I am in love with him I just think there might be a connection. Is there any way to tell if a guy likes you other than him actually asking you out? And if I can how do I go about not being just friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks. i already know he's single. and straight! found him on facebook. and you're right in thinking im inexperienced. and i mean reallly inexperienced.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): If you're truly looking at each other all the time, and talk easily together, then there is a darn good chance he likes you. Remember, there are no guarantees though - everyone is a different kettle of fish.
YOu seem young(ish) and perhaps inexperienced - IMO, most people are confused and shy about being forward to people they're attracted to, not just for fear of rejection, but also the fear of being wrong and it spoiling everything. But nothing ventured, nothing gained - and everyone also likes to know where they stand.
As for being more than friends, you just need to spend some time alone together. The easy dialogue you share can easily be turned to romantic/sensual topics.
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reader, Shiner  +, writes (13 December 2007):
Coming from a guy, one simple answer, ask him if he has a girlfriend, make it something casual like "so you hanging out with your gf tonight?"
If you know that he doesn't have a girlfriend, just go for it and ask him to catch a movie after work.
"hey no big deal or anything but you wanna hang out after work?"
I'm telling you as a guy, nothing's hotter than a chick w/ guts, if he's anything like me he's just as nervous and anxious to find out if you like him back
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): try flirting with him.. see what happens
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reader, Devil Crazy  +, writes (13 December 2007):
 Hi LOL how I wish there would be a female that likes me. =p
OK back to the question, well instead of waiting for him to take the initiative, why not make your first move? Just drop a casual invitation for movies, a drink, a trip to an exhibition etc etc. And meanwhile, you can try to drop hints here and there that you would like something more than friendship...do it subtly though, being too upfront may scare him off...
Best of luck! =)
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