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*adalaka
writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year and half. He's a senior in college and I graduated last year and am now working full time. This past semester I have gone to visit him up at school almost every weekend.(about an hour away) I know he's busy at school, as he is on a sports team and has lots of school work but I felt like he should come to see me occasionaly; this was the only thing we ever fought about. Anyways over thanksgiving break he stayed at home which is only 20 min from my house so when he wouldnt give up one night to come spend with me at my house I yelled at him and we got in a huge fight. We got over it only for me to find out that he had cheated on me while he was home. I was devestated and told him it was over but i continued to talk to him every night during that week crying to him about how much he had hurt me. On saturday when we finally talked face to face he told me he thought the best thing to do was to take some space, that he needed time to think. I pleaded with him to try and work it out, i told him that i forgave him and that we had both made mistakes in the relationship. I told him if he really loved me he would want to work through this. I said I would give him all the space he needed but didn't want to take a break. He said that he loved me and didnt want to lose me but he didn't want to lie to me; that he needed time to think about things. I told him I loved him to much to sit around waiting, that it would hurt me too much always wondering so it was eathier all or nothing and he chose nothing. I left his house crying. Since then he has called and texted me quite a few times and i have ignored him. I was hoping that he was realizing that he made a mistake. I talked to him on-line today and he told me he missed talking to me and asked me if I could call him. When I asked him why he said just to talk. I told him that i didnt think that it was a good idea and sighned off. What should I think??
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (13 December 2007):
 well sweetie maybe he isnt going to call you back right away maybe he wants to see if you will call him again to see if you really wanna talk to him
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reader, kadalaka +, writes (13 December 2007):
kadalaka is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your advice! I know I really shouldn't call him but last night I broke down and called him once, he didn't answer so I just hoped he would see that I called and call back but he never did. So i just left it at that. Why would he say he really wanted me to call him if he didn't even answer or call me back?? Is he just playing head games or does he not care about me in the same way anymore??
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (13 December 2007):
Hunni you did a real good job on what you did i know it was hard for you to just blow him off like you did but thats what you have to do sometimes to make him relize how much he misses you and wants you. If you keep talkin to him then he will just play head games with you like i can still talk to her and she will talk to me no matter what i do but you showed him that you are not playing games let him come running back to you face to face to show you how much he cares about you,. BUT he cheated on you why would you want to take him back you are working you ass off and then going and seeing him but yet he wont come see you how do you know it was that one time that he cheated on you? But if you belive that you two can work it out then once and a while go on and talk to him or even give him a text message to see how he is befor he moves on with someone else, so he dont think that you forgot about him. well good luck and i hope it all works out for you! need any more help you can private mail me.
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