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writes:There's this girl at my school, I barely know her and yet I like her.The only things I know are her name and year (She's 2 years younger than me) because we both did an afterschool activity (I think she doesn't do it anymore though). I'm thinking of asking her out. Any advice on how to do it since I barely know her and she barely knows me (Probably less than I know about her).Thanks :) Reply to this Question
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reader, miss georgiaa  +, writes (1 May 2009):
 well...
i think that you need to let her know that you like her and get that thought into her mind and let her thinking about it over a week or even a month.. maybe just start talking to her more that time and see how it goes.
or you could jump right in and ask her out. just explain that you like her and that you think you would like to give it a go. if she says yes then great but if she says no give her time and try again once you know her more.
hope that was any help lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): Uhm I sort of can relate to your situation `cos there's this guy I like who is 3 years older than me and my friends say he likes me back.
Anyway, try to get to know her. Just a "hi!" can make a big difference. Sometimes when it's meant to be, everything will just fall into place.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): In reply to your update - you've already got some common ground, in that you both attended an after school activity so you could ask her why she doesn't do it any more, or if she does, why haven't you seen her?
Take a deep breath and make sure you've got what you're going to say clear in your mind before taking that giant leap and opening up the conversation.
Oh, to be young again!
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reader, Seven_Deadlies  +, writes (1 May 2009):
 It's a bit weird having a guy you hardly know ask you out. She might be put off by your forwardness and get the wrong idea about you. Get to know her, you really havent got anything to lose. If you get her email or msn then you can really get to know her and who knows what could happen :)
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (1 May 2009):
 well don't ask her out just yet i mean you don't know anything about her.
i mean you may get to know her and think why did i rush into this?
take time to get to know her.
ask her if she wants to hang out sometime?
ask for her email and talk on there a bit more find out things she likes and dislikes.
maybe you won't have anything in common maybe you'll have ALOT in common
just get to know her a bit first though.
certainly don't rush.
hope this helps.
best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): Thanks, is there a way I should start talking to her?
I usually see her at lunch when she walks past me sometimes, apart from that I barely see her. I guess I mean how should I approach her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): Faint heart never won fair lady!
I think the best way would be to strike up some conversation with her so that you can get to know each other rather better. You may like the look of her but it would be nice to find out if she's looked upon you in the same way and if you have any common interests first, and if there are some you'll have something to work on.
In a nutshell, get to be friends first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): Man --- high school is tough :) I know the drill even though it's been many years.
I think what I would do is find out if you know some of her friends ---- and try to learn more about her ----- does she have a boyfriend... Right now it sounds like you like her looks and your like "I want that." It is hard if no relationship has formed...
I know that what I did when in this same situation ---- I found out who are mutual friends were ---- and I told the girl to let her know I really liked her. She told the girl and the girl was then introduced to me and she gave me her number. That is the only time I took the initiative. I was shy I always waited until I heard they liked me.
Either way you have guts :) Good luck...
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