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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi lovely people! Please, before you think 'not another girl with an impossible crush on a gym instructor', he's 3 years older than I am, and not the 'typical flirty gym guy'.He doesn't flirt with anyone else. Not just from what I can see, but him and a friend of mine worked at the same gym a few years ago (way before I met him), and she said he was never seen flirting with the girls at the gym, he was always strictly professional. My friend was actually very surprised when I told her how he behaves with me.I think he flirts with me. Told me he feels very curious about me, asks questions about me: what I do for a living, etc... Often says that I'm beautiful, says that when I look at him my eyes make him melt. And touches me a LOT - nothing rude or crass, just casual touching, or a light massage on the muscles I was working out, and also this cute thing he does: every time my t-shirt sleeve falls to the side (happens a lot) he comes by to straighten my shirt and cover my shoulder again. Also, every single time there's a guy talking to me before class and picks the spot next to me, he gives him such a hard time! Tells him in front of everyone how smart he was for standing next to me, because I'm an amazing girl, etc... Once he was so obvious, some other guy in class actually asked if he was jealous. Some other time, he even forced a guy who was next to me to move to another spot (he wasn't mean, just used some playful excuse to make the guy move). When he's walking among us to check our form and passes by me, he whispers things like "I really want to bite your earlobe". About once a week he bumps into me in the parking lot after class, where we speak briefly but I'm always in a hurry to go to work - I only realized it was intentional by the 4th time, and it happened countless times by now. This is how he does it: he's talking to the staff in the reception, I pass towards the exit, and in less 10 seconds he leaves behind me. Every.single.time. This is driving me nuts! He's funny, incredibly nice to talk to, very sexy, and hasn't asked for my number. Is he just not interested? Is he afraid of rejection? How do I give him the green light? I am very scared of being rejected, I really don't have the guts to be direct and take the 1st step. I'm friendly and the conversation has a nice flow, I smile at him, and I make eye contact. What else could I do? Please help me!
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reader, LiveAnnLearn  +, writes (3 May 2015):
 Would be the best if you could collect enough courage to ask him out, maybe not directly but "to help you buy ____ (insert something workout related)" or something like that xD Help him by finding an excuse to spend some one on one time with him, and see how it goes. It sounds to me from what you wrote that it will definitely go well ;)
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (27 April 2015):
 Maybe the terms of his employment do not allow him to date gym patrons?
Ask him out for coffee (or some other date) and see what he says.
Good luck and best wishes!
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