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writes:I am a single man with grown up children of my own. I have been having an affair with a woman at work for the past 2 years.She is in an unhappy marriage due to her husbands infidelity and has 2 teenage children. She wants to leave but is struggling with finishing a degree, coming to terms with the death of her father 18 months ago, and the guilt of doing all this within a strong Catholic family. She is frightened of the consequences of breaking up the family on the children, and the hurt she is going to cause, but in the meantime they are seeing her unhappy. These are not excuses on her behalf, as I know she loves me passionately. It is tearing her apart, and me because I love her desperately, but how do I give her the strength to be strong and take the step forward?
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reader, salvation +, writes (15 April 2008):
if you in any way pressure her into taking the step its not her making the choice its you. Give her some space but be there for her let her choose what to do next. Its a hard thing so advice her to talk to someone she trust about it or anonymously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): this woman is messing with your head,she aint never going to leave her husband,if she was it would have happened by now 2 years is a long time and you will still be waiting 2 years from now,wake up mate she is having her cake and eating it so to speak
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reader, vsnod  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 I don't know if strength is something you can give this woman. You should stop your affair until she can get her own head straitened out. I have never been married, but I believe with these kind of situations, the married person usually chooses to never leave the marriage. You would be better off finding someone who has less baggage. Also, it is not your responsibility to take care of this woman. She is a grown up, and is choosing to stay in her marriage, cheat on her husband, and making excuses to you to explain why she isn't doing anything to change her situation. I'm sorry, I know that is not really the answer you wanted to hear.
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