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writes:I'm a 30yr old female who has been separated for about a year. Last April I met a guy I worked with who is now 22yrs old. Even though he's younger than I am he is actually very mature for his age. We started off as friends but as the months progressed we became closer. We would hang out and flirt, made out a few times etc. in August my ex was arrested (and is still in jail awaiting trial). When this happened my whole life was put on hold to take care of legal and financial issues(the house etc is still under both our names). My guy friend has been really supportive. And has even helped me move back home, clean the house out, fix a few things so I could sell them etc. I have been very upfront with him about the situation and he knows all the details and where I stand. But our "relationship" is now strictly a friendship. I've talked to him about this a couple months ago and he thinks I just have too much on my plate to move things forward between us. But I still really like him and I really want to move forward with what we had going. However, I still have my responsibilities as well. I can tell he's still in to me and I'm definetly still into him. But he refuses to make any moves or anything. But I still get the "vibe" when we hang out. How can I get things back on track with him? I think about him all the time. As more than a friend.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (20 March 2013):
 It's great you have a good, supportive friend who is aware of the many issues you're dealing with. He sounds very sensible.You are eager to take the relationship to another level. Personally, I'd recommend that you put that wish on hold for now. You still have a very great deal to sort out which must be preoccupying a lot of your time and attention.Not only that, you are separated from your husband. This means, of course that you're not free to form another relationship beyond friendship - not until your divorce is final. Are you, in fact, actively pursuing divorce?'Once all this is taken care of then you'll be in a position to think about more involvement with your friend -assuming you still want to, that is.Good luck!
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