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writes:i am 13 and i only had one boyfriend he was nice and all then a weak later he broke up with me but i still like him and it was over a year ago how do i get him back if i still want him and how do i no if he still likes me? im desperate please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): i am the same age as you and this happened to me, except he didnt just dump me, he did it at my 13th party and then asked out my best mate, for a while i really wanted him back and then i realised, he didnt deserve me if he could just switch his feelings on and off. So my advice to you girl, is get a new, hotter boyf and forget him!!
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reader, airwaterearthfirebender  +, writes (1 January 2011):
 I cringe when I read a question such as yours. Without even knowing anything about you my advice to you is you are too young for a relationship. Beyond that, why do you feel you need a boyfriend (especially at your age)? Answer that for yourself to hopefully get your mind working, don't just blindly follow your feelings or emotions. Other advice that comes to mind in response to your question and for your future growth. 1) As a woman, don't let a man or a relationship define you. Firstly, this is not healthy for your person and, secondly, it is not an attractive trait, except if the guy has low self esteem. Be a strong and confident woman and you will be more likely to attract a healthy and equally confident man who will complement you. 2) If you are confident and comfortable with yourself then one thing you will not be is desperate. Why would you be desperate to get your boyfriend back? Again, being desperate is only a sign of some lacking in yourself. Concentrate on being happy with yourself before you go looking for others to somehow complete you or make you feel better about yourself. Again, this just tells me you are far too young for this stuff. Realize you have a lot to learn and that you will know more in 5 years than you do now (but don't assume being older necessarily brings wisdom either, because there are older people who still behave as immaturely and as stupidly as ever). 3) Hopefully you have not yet engaged in anything sexual yet. Value your intimacy when the time is right and with the right person. Even if the relationship doesn't work out you will have at least invested the time to truly try to know someone before engaging in sexual activity. There are many bad and weak people in this world who will say and do anything to have sex with you. Don't be foolish, getting involved sexually when you are not ready for the ramifications and/or consequences can mess you up mentally for a lifetime. 4) The 'right' person is only someone you have known for a long time. You know his past, you know his temperament, you know how he handles stress, and you see how he handles pressure. How does he really treat you? Don't fool yourself into believing some idealized view, but try to put yourself in the perspective of someone you respect (maybe mom and/or dad) and what would they think. And yes, your time early in a relationship is a test, a test to see if he is worthy of you and vice-versa. If he is pressuring you for anything too fast then he should be shown the door. This 'boyfriend' of yours you knew for a week? How well do you really know him? Was he really your boyfriend? I've never heard of a relationship lasting a week. Again, I will reiterate that you shouldn't even be in a relationship and I hope I am proving it to you. Spend enough time getting to know someone and that they are who they tell you they are. Anybody can make up stuff. I can tell you I'm really Bill Gates, but only you are the fool if you believe it without seeing enough evidence. If you have done your due diligence of a partner then you will have fewer regrets not to mention less chance for getting an STD and/or duped into believing some guy was something he is or was not. You can be confident that you will have retained your integrity and self-respect. A future partner who is worthy will see that you behaved honorably and can and will respect you all the more. I can go on and on, but I hope I've given you something to think about and to think about yourself, who you are and what you stand for.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (1 January 2011):
 I shouldnt try to get back with him. you are very young. After a week of going out with you, hardly knowing you, he knew enough to know that it's not you he wants so just let him go, try to get him out of your mind. You have lots of time for growing up, and trust me, there is lots of guys out there just waiting for a girl like you.
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