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36-40,
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writes:*(Note -I come from a conservative part of the world, where marriages are still arranged!! Yes, Seriously!)There's this guy who happened to see my profile online, on a social networking site, and found me interesting. (We belong to the same community - very distantly related).So the guy gathers the guts to tell his parents that he's interested in me, and his mum calls up my family to find out if we have any plans of marriage for me now. My family firmly tells a no. I'm 22 and just beginning to find feet in my career.Marriage is certainly not on the cards.The guy is a super braino, an ivy league nerd. But I wonder if he's got anything besides that - because, despite being told no...he refuses to get off my back.He seems to be able to track me and e-mail me somehow or the other...it gets very irritating! Maybe he's trying to be friends...but he certainly doesnt appear to be my kinda friend (however rude that sounds). I sent him a msg too asking him to back off, but he doesnt seem to have got the point.What do I do - to get that a-hole off my back ???!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 The previous writer had a good suggestion.
I'd get your father to write him, but I would also send another personal note asking again, politely, to back off.
You could word it: Dear _____, I would like to ask that you please give me some space. I have no wish to marry until I am __ old. I am concentrating on my studies and career. I am feeling very pressed by your attention and your refusal to accept my wishes indicates that you don't respect my feelings on the matter, which does not bode well for any friendship, let alone a marriage. Please do not contact me again about a relationship. I am insistant, this is my final answer. I will not entertain any further communication, nor will my family. Goodbye.
Hopefully, none of your other family members are in contact with him (??????).
Good luck getting rid of your persistant suitor.
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (11 September 2007):
 If I really loved a girl I wouldn't simply give up without making an effort, however, if she told me flat out that she wanted nothing to do withme, I'd leave, even if it made me feel horrible.
Most guys would do the same.
Since that hasn't worked, I'd suggest getting a brother, a friend, or maybe your father to go settle things with him.
If he's a nerdy guy, he'll probably back off.
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