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*nisalynnjo
writes:short sweet and to the point : my boyfriend is extremely liked by many black females . he's mixed but looks black . i'm white . he's really good abt always holding my hand EVERYWHERE we go and good at looking me in my and communication . but how can i let people know or make them see that he really likes me ? i know this sounds bad but point blank - i want them to be jealous that he likes me a lot and i want them to be able to see it . any tips ? again i know this sounds bad but i'm just making it easier for everyone lol thanks :)
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (1 April 2012):
 A confident woman never shows jealousy, never gets worried and never shows that she's upset. She just watches the other woman making fools of themselves and smiles at their stupidity.
An insecure woman looks upset, acts jealous and upset, gets into arguments and fights, can't relax if her guy moves from her side. That's a sign that she isn't secure in her relationship and she expects him to dump her eventually.
Story: When I was about your age, our school went to a sports centre. A whole pile of girls started making a play for the boys in our school. It was bloody embarrassing. The guys wanted to play sports not try to date girls, they didn't much notice what was going on. Men don't usually notice when women get into catfights.
We was mean. We all played sports, ignored all the nonsense and when the session was over, we just each grabbed a guy and went home. Them girls were spitting angry, because we didn't do anything to attract attention, just told the guys it was time to go home. Pity they didn't know that every guy was single and we was all just friends.
You want to make them girls jealous. Do nothing and smile and laugh a lot, they'll back off, when they notice that nothing they do can upset you or your boyfriend.
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reader, enisalynnjo +, writes (31 March 2012):
enisalynnjo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe reason why i want other people to be like that is because girls are always trying to break us up & i just want people to realize that were for real so they can get out of our business
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 Why must you put on a show for everyone to see? How true is YOUR like for your boyfriend?
People will see that he likes you thru his actions and manner with you. Or they just won't pay you any mind, because people tend to mind their own business.
To answer your question, you can't make people jealous when they don't really care in the first place. It's just tiresome and requires too much energy. You also won't see the results or reactions you want to see from people. Don't try to get a rise out of people.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (30 March 2012):
 Why would you want to invoke negative emotions in other people when they see you both? Are you really with him JUST to make others jealous? Why do you care what people think? Just enjoy being with your boyfriend and forget the rest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): Jealousy is a nasty, negative emotion. Why do you need anyone to feel jealous? You are feeling insecure and it's twisting your emotions.
If you cannot just relax and enjoy being his girlfriend, and him being your boyfriend, then I am afraid you are going to be one unhappy young woman.
Take a chill pill and stop wishing nasty, miserable feelings on other people.
You chose one another - isn't that enough? Be happy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 March 2012):
 Why in the world do you want others to be jealous that he likes you?
Do you understand that jealousy is an emotion rooted in insecurity… that folks that are jealous of you are insecure about THEIR relationship with your boyfriend…
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (30 March 2012):
 It isn't possible to claim someone like they are a possession or to put a sign on them saying 'Hands off, He's mine!!!' Relationships do not work that way.
If you hung round his neck 24/7 clawing at girls you see as a potential threat, it won't make him stay with you and, to other people, you are just going to look like an immature, psycho nutjob!!!
It's a sad fact of life but nobody can prevent their partner leaving them for someone else. People only really stay together if they want to by their own volition (will)and if they are happy.
If you act like some kind of possessive ball and chain round his neck...he will soon get the hump with it and he will leave.
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reader, Abigail221  +, writes (30 March 2012):
As long as he's not flirting with other girls, stop trying to make other people jealous. it's horrible. trust me. it's a green monster that will stalk you home at night. he's the one holding your hand and making it obvious to everyone else, be happy he's not a player and likes you a lot. most guys would just go out with them all and be player-ish
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): It is you that is jealous and your rivalry will not help. You are the one who needs to change.
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