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writes:So, I'm interested in this guy. Have been for about 6 months. We've flirted, we've hung out solo, and even come close to going out on an almost date... twice. The thing is, he always pulls back and gives me the cold shoulder when things are starting to work out. A couple of weeks ago I finally figured out why. He has two female best friends. One is a sweetheart. The other is maybe the most horrid person ever. And I am pretty sure she is interested in this same guy. When we all go out in a group, she is constantly insinuating herself between us, and I am 90 percent sure that she tries to talk him out of spending any time with me solo.This guy is great, and I really like him and want to spend more time with him. I am also pretty sure he feels the same way. His last girlfriend forbade him to hang out with his friends, so I dont want to do that, since that would definitely not go over well.I've tried being nice to her, but it doesnt work. The moment it seems like this guy and I are headed ina r omantic direction, she makes it her mission to sabotage whatever we are doing.So my question is, how do I get past the cockblock best friend and get the guy?
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reader, span  +, writes (2 February 2012):
From my experience, if a guy likes a girl, he will not let a friend cockblock her.
Usually it's the other way around, usually the GUY would be saying "I really like Jane but Anne keeps on cockblocking me!"
For example, one of my male friends SENDS ME AWAY to talk to other guys when we're in a bar so that other girls don't think we're together. One time, he was so certain that I was ruining his chances of pulling this girl that he sent me into the toilet after her to make a loud phonecall to my boyfriend saying I was just coming home after having drinks with my 'cousin'.
Make it clear you like him and he'll find a way to get you on your own.
Good luck!
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (1 February 2012):
 TALK TO HIM ABOUT THIS. Obviously don't call her a cockblock haha!!
But you need to explain how you feel.
This site is great for advice, but too many people come on here and spill their heart out instead of talking to the other person!! You need to tell him how you feel. I bet he has no idea how it makes you feel. If he likes you then great! and screw the best friend it's your life not hers and if you got together she'd have to get over herself. but if he defends her and doesn't like you in that way then he's not worth getting angry over. xx
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (1 February 2012):
Hi there. How did you first meet him?
To avoid seeing this female, you could not go out with that group again.
So let him come to you instead.
If he sees you are not there, and you usually are, well then he is going to have to make other plans to catch up with you, isn't he?
And that is something she has absolutely no control over.
He will then find a way of seeking you out and finding out where you live or your phone number, if he is interested enough.
By avoiding the group social setting, you are not putting yourself in the situation where you are going to be anywhere near her.
Does this sabotaging by her, take place in the group setting?
By that I mean, does she separate him from you in some way, like distracting him and then starting up a conversation with him - or else standing in between you, so she is closer to him than you?
In any case, it seems that to avoid the group situation with this other female, is the wisest course of action.
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