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writes:The title says it all pretty much. I just cant like her for as much as I try. When me and my hub were together in the beginning I would go over to his brothers house and help and clean she would be home all day pregnant I did this for about 3 months untill she popped Yeah I did get payed but she was really demanding, sometimes she just kinda demand for nothing and to add to that her mouth has no common sense shes them type of people that dont think before they speak If i would have known she was like that at all I wouldnt have never offered, so that messed up the relationship already. When I found out I was pregnant I had gone into the restroom to puke when I had came out she made a rude comment "Id think about that abortion" in a jokinly way, obviously I didnt take it like a joke... I hold grudges for a very long time and her saying that plays in my head over and over again shes lucky im really nice and calm cuz I felt like blowing up on her. Now I am pregnant and she still seems to ask for alot and she knows she messed up various times with me so she tries to get close to me I always block her out. I need to get along with her obviously cuz know im a bit stuck where I am and I will be seeing her. I wish I was single, this is the stuff you dont deal with being single. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2012): I am sorry to say, but I am dealing with the same type of sister-in-law. I just don't like her no matter how hard I try, and I have tried for several years. I can tell you this... Don't blow up and tell her everything on your mind, it will only make things worse. I have tried this, and we avoid each other as much as possible now but there are still school functions, family events and holidays to contend with.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 February 2012):
 I find it odd you go as far as saying you wish you were single. Don't you like your married life? It would be much easier to wish that your SIL were someone else.
Anyways, you don't have to like all of your in-laws. I for one can't stand my SIL, she's a fake twat. BUT, you still have to see her and deal with her during family gatherings, holidays, etc. You really can't start any sort of war with her, because it also gets the rest of the family involved, and she'll make you out to look the beeyatch, and her the victim.
So I wouldn't clean her home anymore, make any unneeded visitations to her home (unless you're accompanied by your husband), and try to speak to her very little as possible at family gatherings. There's no need to go out of your way in this less than sisterly relationship.
Unfortunately, you're going to have to deal with her for as long as you're married and as long as she's married to your BIL. It's just one of those things in life you have to put up with.
Although it does make it easier avoiding her if she lives on one side of the country and you live on the other.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Spend as little time with her as possible. And let the past go, for no other reason then to avoid drama and stress during the pregnancy. She sounds like she is a tad jealous of you.
I had a SIL who was absolutely fake. She'd be almost nice to my face, but stab me in the back every change she got. I actually ended up ignoring her, though not my BIL and my nieces, but I would have nothing to do with her. She got mad and butt hurt and told my husband I was being mean and he explained why to her (again) and after that she left me be, My BIL divorced her a couple of years ago, and I still have contract with him and the kids. She on the other hand doesn't exist in my book.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (1 February 2012):
 You say she still asks for a lot. What is she asking for? Does she want money from you, or to do cleaning around her house?
I think if that's the case, your best bet is to politely tell her you have too much to do yourself, and can't help her out. She probably won't want to hear it, but YOU have a right not to give in to her demands - at any time, but especially now you're pregnant!
Have you talked to your husband about the situation?
Another thing you can do is visit as a couple - and not all that often, at that. You don't HAVE to get together with her to go shopping, or to lunch, one-on-one if you don't want to!
Can't think of anything else right now - and it's getting late - 10:45 p.m.
Good luck with this!
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