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writes:hey I'm a really jealous girlfriend and my boyfriend can't stand it because I hold the past against him.... he kissed a girl like 6 months ago right in front of me at this party and I have been jealous since... I hate other girls texting him I hate it when they flirt with him... like I said I'm really jealous so my questions are why am I so jealous and how do I get over being jealous?
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reader, TomWilkinson  +, writes (21 November 2007):
 You need to look at things from the other prospective, how would you feel if he got jealous everytime you talk to or text one of your male friends?
About the kissing someone in front of you, I'm assuming this is before you were together? Everyone has a past and it should never be held against them, the fact is you're with him now and with you knowing he talks to girls, he clearly is doing nothing wrong, if he was hiding that fact, then it ould be an issue.
You can't do anything to stop jealousy, but you can make it less of an issue by not punishing him. Any time you get jealous, kiss him passionately or do something he really likes, that way you'll feel better knowing that you're pleasing him =)
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reader, sexi  +, writes (21 November 2007):
 Hi
A bit of jealousy os okay in a relationship but it is all about trust. I was like that whne i first started my relationship. You just need to build a foundation of trust and things would be ok. If you keep bringing up his past and nagging him about YOUR jealousy you are going tp push him away from you and he will become distanced towards you. You need to know that the past should be kept where it belongs in the past. Is your bf the type to cheat on you? Why do you have so much of funny thoughts? I think you should speak to your bf and apologize for your behaviour in the past and tell him that you are deciding to make a change in your relationship and you would like is support. He can reassure you to remove any doubts that you may have. Just speak to your bf. When he kissed this other girl were you 2 together?
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, Azarath +, writes (21 November 2007):
 other people wanting the person I love, but them loving only me, makes me feel special. how you look at the situation makes a world of difference. others wanting them, and them wanting you more should make you feel good about yourself, and your relationship. everyone feels jealousy, the question is can you turn that negative into a positive? personally kissing is cheating, your jealousy is justified, I think you need to ask yourself if you can really trust this guy with your heart, because it breaks so easily.
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reader, dy  +, writes (21 November 2007):
Hello? Why did he kiss the girl right in front of you in the first place? :|My personal point of view is that you're getting jealous because he isn't assuring you and gaining your trust!Dont blame yourself sweetie.I suggest you have a good talk with him and let him know your stand. What are your dislikes and unhappiness. Than afterwhich, come to compromisation both of you agree on. Remember, whatever you agreed to compromise, you must do it! Eg: Bf: "I really hope you would stop being paranoid when a girl texts me."You: "Alright, i'll try to keep the emotions low. But i do hope you understand that i need to know that these are plain harmless msges."Make sure you control your emotions!Having said that, just want to point out that whatever is yours, will remain yours. If it's not meant to be, no matter how many promises had been made, it'll still be gone.Take care sweetie,
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