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30-35,
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writes:I have been in arelationship with my boyfriend for nearly a year and a half but lately we've stopped being as affectionate to each other. Though it's long distance (200 miles from each other), that isn't the problem, we've always been quite romantic with each other. I realised this was happening a few months ago and explained how I was feeling and we both promised we'd make more of an effort. The thing that really riles me though is that he seems to be able to sort out all his friends relationship problems before our own , doesn't seem like a major deal but this happens once a week. I love him so much but im wondering if the routine were in is a sign of things to come, I'm so worried please help me, I miss his affection a lot.
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (21 November 2007):
 You're still young and being stuck in a long distance relationship with dwindling affection is not good. You should seriously consider finding someone closer to home, failing that, just someone affectionate.
Your age is a big factor, you should be enjoying yourself, especially with your boyfriend, going out to the cinema, watching DVDs etc.
It's sounds cruel but from personal experience you should get out of this relationship, it seems you're staying in it simply down to comfort, when everyone deserves so much more!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): I think he feels both comfortable, and secure in your relationship. That is a great thing but can also have its down side, which you are feeling now. He will always help his friends, thats part of the reason you love him I guess. you shouldn't worry about him helping them. its a lot easier to fix problems from the outside of a relationship. you can use your mind to think instead of using your heart. he loves you, you love him. take the same comfort he finds in that, its what makes you strong. too often people dont see the strength in love, they only see the weak spot it gives them. continue to make that effort and reward him for his. I dont think that he has stopped appreciating you, thats when you are truly stuck in a rut. when you are worried about the relationship, you analyze the little things way to much. when your secure you leave things unsaid, you need to find the middle ground to be happy. hope this randomness helps you out.
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