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writes:My question is how do I get over my baby's dad?we only dated for 2 months i got pregnant on the second month. For reason i had to move back to my old state where i then had my daughter and we have been talking over the phone for about a year now. my daughter is now 1 year old. He has another baby from a different girl and he got back with her when i moved away, he would tell me he wasn't with her but i knew he was. Me and my little girl recently went to visit and when we were there it was like i never left. I came home and now he is saying he doesn't know how to feel or what to do? I'm tired of the runaround but I can't seem to let him go. I've never felt this before and I cry all the time, I just want to be happy but he keeps telling me he loves me but I think he's just trying to make me believe what he says so I stay loving him. Please I just need some advice on what I should do to get over him?
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reader, Courts4  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 This is not where your life ends, just because you have a baby from this guy.
Life goes on.
Dont waste your time with this guy.
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reader, Dazed~Confused  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 First and foremost, what is he doing to help you with your child? Is he supporting you in anyway?
Second, the minute you were gone, he was with someone else. Meanwhile, you have been alone and taking care of the baby.
I think this is someone who hasn't put you, your needs, or the needs of the baby first.
To get over him, you need to stop talking with him. Change your number and email address if you have to. This is not a situation where I think you guys can be friends. If he's not supporting his child, then keeping your distance from him should be easy. But, you need to stop contact with him b/c the more contact you have the harder it will be.
You also need to remind yourself that he hasn't been there for you when you needed him; and in my estimation moved on pretty quickly. This is not a man who will be there for the long haul.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): I think you need to realise that this guy is a player, pure and simple. He has got two women pregnant, and doesnt appear to have been commited to either of them.
Sadly, you got pregnant after 2 months (that is only 8 weeks) - which is not enough time to build a lasting relationship. Talking over the phone for a year does not mean a thing.
You need to focus on your little girl, and make her the priority in your life. Not this idiot of a man. If he wants to be part of her life, then fair enough, you must make sure he gets to see her, but do not spend the rest of your life chasing him, and trying to get him to be with you, because he wont. He is quite happy with no responsibilities, and he doesnt want the hassle. IF he really had any deep feelings, then he would be with you, and there would be no excuses. He is trying to manipulate you emotionally - dont fall for it.
You are far better off without this loser - you are a strong independant woman, with a lovely daughter - you enjoy her!
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