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writes:how to get over jealousy??????
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reader, RhapsodyInTime  +, writes (21 February 2007):
There is no need to be hard on yourself. Jealousy is an emotion that may indicate insecurity in yourself as an individual because of low self-esteem and/or low self-respect. If this is the case what can you do to change the way you feel about yourself?
It can also be insecurity in a relationship with a particular woman that has nothing to do with your personal insecurity, and everything to do with how the woman is treating you. Is she disrespectful to you by looking over other men in public, is she flirtatious around other men? Is she spending time with men that should be off limits given your relationship with her, i.e. a former boyfriend, or some other man she is attracted to? Please distinguish between the two forms of jealousy/insecurity because the first one means you need to do some work on yourself and the second one means you need a better relationship either with the woman you're seeing or with someone else who will treat you much better. Good luck to you.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Feelings such as jealousy are based on fear and do not come from love at all, we say we feel like this BECAUSE we love the person but this isn't the case at all. Jealousy comes from wanting to possess and wanting to own or have. One cannot own another being or even the mind of another being. One being cannot live for another. Remember that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear immobilizes and makes it virtually impossible for people to think effectively because it bypasses the pre frontal cortex and goes directly to your right brain emotional center and is thus not even analyzed first!
Feelings such as guilt and worry are in the same category. See what benefits you could possibly derive from sitting in your favourite chair and contemplating as well as experiencing these feelings intensely for a few hours? None of course because they do not deliver any benefit other than getting you into an even greater state of fear. So you see, that jealousy, guilt, fear and worry all belong in the trash bin because they do not deliver any benefit whatsoever. Love on the other hand will get you to understand and be less fearful. This in turn will make it possible for you to experience joy and bliss.
Remember always: You have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore you can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody else. YOU determine the future. And you become what you THINK. Be careful because the universe will deliver that which you THINK!
Eve
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