A
male
age
30-35,
*itler
writes:Ok...me and my girlfriend broke up like two weeks ago. But i still love her...a lot, and she must have lied to me, because she told me she just wanted to take a short break, and she didn't want a boyfriend right now, so she lied to me, and she said she is over me, but is she, and how do i get her back, and plus yesterday i called her, and told her that she lied to me, and i was yelling don't very loud, but she hung up on me...i miss her so much, i want to stay with her forever. now im trying to get over her, but i can't but im saying that but no one really doesn't really believe me, but what do i do, how do i get her back...need really good advice fast
View related questions:
broke up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, DrCynic  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Yelling at her wasn't a very good way to do it... My advice to you son is to let her go... You're young... Are you even in High School yet?... You'll have many chances to try again.
A
male
reader, ChiRaven +, writes (12 April 2007):
 Well, you certainly do NOT get her back by yelling at her and accusing her of lying to you. Forget that. If no one believes you after that performance, I wouldn't wonder why.
You are going to have to earn her trust by showing her some maturity and some kindness and some affection. Frankly, given how badly you managed your last contact you'll be really lucky if she gives you another chance, but if women weren't the forgiving creatures that they are the human race probably would have died out thousands of years ago.
I would start with the most sincere and humble apology you know how to give. Tell her that you were wrong to yell at her and wrong to say that she lied, and make sure she knows that you really mean it. You owe her that even if she never speaks to you again after that. You NEVER treat a woman that way. NEVER. Break up with them if you need to, but always be civil about it.
If (and it's a real big IF) she accepts your apology, you can start thinking about how to mend your broken relationship. Once again, it's going to take a lot of really good behavior on your part and a lot of forgiveness on her part. But it just might work if both of you are willing. Just try to start over. Remember how it was when you were first going together. Try to recapture some of that magic.
And stay cool.
...............................
|
