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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Two nights ago my boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me. He was my first boyfriend and my first kiss, I was and still am completely in love with him. I had noticed he had been a bit off with me around other people but when we were alone it was fine he was just himself. I know that he is now smoking tobacco and weed now and I know that I am probably best out of it but I was wondering whether this could have had any impact?After talking to one of our mutual friends who is both one of my closest friends as well as his, I found out that this friend had been a sort of agony aunt for my ex and had basically made my ex dump me because he said it was for the best. This friend had been causing problems before as my best girlfriend is going out with him so we were always a little foursome and we hung out together etc. Last Wednesday she gave him a blowjob in frony of me and my ex (yuck!), and my ex obviously wanted me to do the same, as he felt as we ahd been going out twice as long as them that we should have got to that stage by now. If he had asked me I would have been happy to do it but I wasn't, unlike my best friend, prepared to do it in front of other people.I had texted him the night he dumped me because we were supposed to be going to a party together and the host had said that he could not attend. He texted me back saying he needed to tell me something and then I twigged what was happening I asked him 'Are you breaking up with me?'and then he called me to explain that he 'didn't want to be in a relationship at the moment' I asked him why and he said there was no reason. I was devastated but I needed to find out so I texted our mutual friend and asked him if James had said anything, he didn't reply. Yesterday evening I went to the party hosts house and as she is one of my friends we talked about it, I then found out that our mutual friend had known when I had gone to town with him and another girl that my ex was about to break up with me. He also knew what he had done in way of breaking us up. He explained that my ex didn't feel that he loved me anymore and that he had told him to end it because of that. he also said that my ex liked a few other girls including a (excuse my bluntness) slag from the year above at my school and one of my younger friends also at my school. But to me this doesn't make sense as he was fine when we had met up a few days ago, how can you fall out of love in three days of not seeing someone?I have since spoken to my ex as I needed to return some of his things he had left at my house. I asked him about these girls and he said that he didn't like them, but when I was very angry my friend and I went all over his social networking pages and read what he had said to these girls, to the slag he had mentioned something about bringing weed the next time they went out to town and that he was 'so happy and free now I am single!'He had said this about half an hour after he broke up with me. Now that hurt a lot, I threw up when I got home, and I did the same the night we broke up. And no I did not make myself throw up!We agreed to be friends as we have always had so much in common, but as much as I would like to be friends I am still completely in love with the boy I knew before he changed, I just need to know how to get over a broken heart,because as much as I love him and want him back I know that he is not worth it?
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reader, irishgirlm  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Well one thing, at least you know he's not worth it! i know everyone will say it but really your too young its puppy love and you soon will find a new crush.. I was nearly with my ex for a year and we did everything a couple could do and almost a year later we havent muttered a word to each other -at least ye are still friends.The best advice i can give you is to stay clear of him because seeing him will make it harder and in a few weeks i know you will be ok.. hold tough for now :D x
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reader, Who  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 “How do I get over a broken heart?”You don’t.That is to say you don’t do anything to get over it, it just mends itself overtime. This is your first time through so I’m guessing you don’t believe me, but you will likely get a few more chances in your life to see how these things go. No matter how bad you feel now, you will forget all about it the next time you fall in love. You just have to wait it out. Here’s something you can do while you are waiting. Get a photo of your ex and look at it for a while. Then draw some horns on him. Look at it for a while then try drawing a scar, maybe black out a few teeth. Maybe draw a ballet tu-tu on him. Always worked for me.
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