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How do I get my self confidence back after what he said to me?

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Question - (17 April 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 21 April 2008)
A female South Africa age 41-50, *iami writes:

i have been dating this guy for 6 months and he had a girlfriend and never told me about her in the first 3 months in our relationship.We carried on after I've found out that he made the girl pregnant. he was very much jealous of me talking to other guys and one sunday night he was angry that i did'nt want to have sex with him, he started beating me up and called me names and said i was not good in bed.

now my problem is i can't date other guys because i feel like what he said is true because of my past failed relationships. how do i get my self confidence back?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

My ex told me too to spite me that i was no good in bed. My partners afterwards have had NO complaints, but i let that silly man's comments make me feel self conscious. Men are pathetic when theyre hurt and angry and they last out and say anything to hurt you. One of my exes told me " your breath stinks after you smoke, and it smells rank, nobody will go near you" I was sooo upset by this and i asked close friends who told me it wasn't true and he'd said it to knock my confidence. An ex of my cousins told her she was fat and didn't have a good body. it's pathetic. You have to look at it this way- it's obviouslt not true, else why would they be even bothering with you in the first place. This guy is a dick...

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A female reader, xxtinkerbellxx Ireland +, writes (17 April 2008):

What a flippen A-Hole dont listento him thats the way he wants you to feel...

He's said that now so you'd be incsure

DONT LET HIM WIN....:(

Let me know how you get on and if my advise helped any

xxx~*~TINKERBELL~*~xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

Thats exactly how he wants you to feel men like that are insucure arseholes who think they can get away with treating women like shit please dont listen to a word he says and go out there and prove him wrong and show him what hes missing.i personally would make his life hell ie.did his g/f know about you hope everythin works out for you xxxx

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A male reader, binhquangdao United States +, writes (17 April 2008):

binhquangdao agony auntyou will find a good guy don't worry but you must learn from your past failed relationship and learn the lesson from it and move on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

OH! SWEETHEART!

First he is a bloody first rate arsehole, In fact NO! you cant call him that he isnt worth it he is an arsehalf!!!!!

You dont belive a word of what he said to you hunny he is the weak you are the strong. Im going to send you some links on self esteem and self confidence and you have to always believe in yourself no matter what, He took his hurt pain or whatever you can call it out on you he is a coward.....

http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index.html

http://self-esteem.readabout.net/RegainingYourSelfEsteemAfteranAbusiveRelationship.html

Never loose faith in you sweetheart always no you are worth so much dont let this man make you think differently I hope this links help hunny TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2008):

What an idiot.

Yes you were a bit stupid for not walking out on him the moment that you realised he had a girlfriend, or the moment when he became possessive and weird.

But you have learned not to do it again.

Hold your head up high. This guy is an psycho and said a load of lies to hurt you and make you feel like this.

Don't let him win!

Hold your head up high and find a guy who deserves you.

Good Luck!! xx

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