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writes:I'm asking for a male friend who's 45-50.I've been married for 21 years and the have three young children. The magic has been out of our relationship for many years and we are more like friends who take each other for granted.I've met someone through work who I have fallen in love with and would like to spend the rest of my life with. I have told my wife about the relationship but am not sure if I should give my marriage another try because of the children. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): I can tell you (and him) that staying together for the sake of the children is not a very good reason for doing so. The children sense that they could cut the atmosphere with a knife and they end up just as miserable in the long run, and you won't be doing them any favours.
Before moving on to someone else that you wish to spend the rest of your life with, it would be a very good idea to check that the children get along in friendly fashion with their new 'mother'. If not, the children inevitably win the affection of their father over his new 'wife'.
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reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 hi there, the man sounds like he is going through some mid life crisis (it happens unfortunately), he needs to focus on his marriage. Marriages have their ups and downs and if both people are willing to work hard at it and dicuss any problems that arise and communicate with each other. As for the other woman, he only knows her through work, as the saying goes "faraway fields are greener" this is probably what he thinks and the relationship will not last if a relation developes. This woman needs to back off and find someone who is not married with young children. Marriage breakups have a devastating effect on children and if there is anyway that a couple can stay together, i think they should try there best to do so. Personally i believe, the "magic" going from a relationship or we are more like "friends" is NOT a valid reason for leaving a marriage. They probably just need to take a break away with each other and do things they enjoy doing together.Generally, I have seen that people who have work relationships, it is just an infatuation and a bit of a thrill but it not something that will ever last.Take care
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 April 2008):
 So you are asking this question for this 45-50 yr old guy? You wouldn't happen to be the other woman would you?
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