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*zabella637
writes:hi, ive been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half and i have recently lost my virginity to him. I love him more than anything and want to be with him for the rest of my life. However, we have manyyyy fights and basically fight over everything.. I think it also comes from him always being with his friends and barely going out with me. he has this one friend who was dating my best friend and he left her to be with someone else. When he did that i started getting worred because my boyfriend would be with him when he went to see his new girlfriend. My boyfriend and i started kind of getting distant. He was always out for a week and i couldnt reach him half the time. However, when i would be at his house and with and mom and stuf we were good but when he was out with his friends you couldnt really reach him. Then he wouldnt let me half a myspace but he had one, and his best friend opened one and put pictures of him and his girlfriend and i got mad and told my boyfriend hes either giving me his passowrd, deleting it or putting pictures of me and him on it. He refused so i askedhim if i culd make one and he said no and i made one. SInce i didnt listen to him and made one he got really pissed and isnt talking to me. It's been 3 days that we havent talked and he hasnt even called me.. When i talk to his mom she says that no one could talk to him hes pissed and screams at everyone when they try to ask him something.. So its been around 3 days and i really miss him but i dont know wat to do. I dnt want to call him or anything i want him to make the first move but hes not and when he does i dont want to accept him back too soon.. So how can i make him come bak soon and when he does how do i make him work for it. P.S. my boyfriend is a psycho..even if it kills him not to be with me to prove that hes right he wont call me or anything until i basically gravel
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (24 July 2009):
If he's a psycho why the HELL do you wsant him back - let him become someone else's problem... get over him and find someone to have a healthy relationship with...
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reader, busy04 +, writes (24 July 2009):
 You are not in a good mindset...
This is clearly not a healthy relationship, you don't let one partner control the relationship. Love is supposed to be shared equally 50/50, not 0/99. If he won't make an effort to make things right with you on his own, then as much as you love him, you need to let him go. Listen to everything you have said, you opened this post saying you two fight constantly...do you really think a relationship is supposed to be like that? Relationships are about love, trust, commitment & mutual respect. You have to ask him to make a myspace page? Do you really want to be with a man that controlling? Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with that? What happens next? You'll need a hall pass for the restroom? And his being with his friends more than you, should let you know where he really wants to be...WITH HIS FRIENDS! Open your eyes sweetheart, don't be anyones fool!
You can't make him come back to you, he has to get rid of his pride, stop waiting for you to kiss his ass, be a REAL man & come to you on HIS OWN! Why do you feel the need to make him come back? You've done NOTHING wrong! He has the problem...and he needs to be the one to deal with it.
In the meantime, honey I suggest you do some serious thinking about your relationship...just because you lost your virginity to him does not mean that you have to be treated this way in this relationship. Neither does it mean that you HAVE to stay with him. Do some soul searching for yourself, don't settle.
Wish you all the best!
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reader, S-Breeze13 +, writes (24 July 2009):
He's hiding something and doesn't want you to find out about whatever he is hiding. Ask him what his problem is and explain to him how you feel.
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