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writes:Forgive me if this is too long- Years ago, I met a wonderful man who fell madly in love with me, back then I was not sure of the things I wanted nor was I taking things seriously. We were together for a year and one day I broke up with him because I had met someone who I thought was the love of my life. That broke his heart as you can imagine..Years passed and he was still there for me, even though I was with somebody else. He would listen and I knew how hard it was for him to talk to me and be a friend after everything that happened between us and I didn't care. I would disregard him completely.. and he went through a horrible depression because of me. In the end, my prince charming ended up being the worst thing that ever happened to me. I threw everything away for him- including the love of my life.I now realize that he's always been the one for me, he's even told me that we would have been married by now. I am so sorry for every little thing I've done. He knows how I feel but says that we could never be.So... love doesn't conquer it all? How do I get my love back?
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 You hurt this poor man so much that his heart broke and has never really healed itself. His thoughts must be, that if he fell in love with you all over again, what would stop you doing it to him again? He must have suffered bad.
I understand that you feel dreadful for what you did to him, and how you want him back, but it will take a hell of a lot of convincing to get him to give you another chance.
You can but try and and have a heart to heart with him, and try your upmost to make him believe in you, and you can try and promise him with all your heart that you would never ever hurt him again.
Try telling him that you want to spend the rest of your life with him and grow old with him, also say that you made the biggest mistake of your life when you left him.
Failing all that, and I know it's going to be hard for you, but think about what Finn suggests, find someone else and try and move on with your life, but first you must free this man from your mind.
Good luck.
BigSis
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Through personal experience and also of others, it is my belief that if we reject someone once then we will do it again eventually, regardless of how we subsequently feel second time around.
You are at a low ebb, things went badly wrong in your relationship and now your thoughts are turning to this poor, wretched man who fell hopelessly for you. You were strong enough then to realise he was not the one: nothing has changed except your vulnerability and loneliness. You will eventually get yourself together, find someone else and move on. It won't be easy of course but I personally feel that trying to go back would be a bad thing.
Good luck Miss.
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