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writes:I dated this guy for a few months. He graduated last year and I'm a sophomore in high school. Please don't start saying he's too old for me because my mother is okay with it and so are both of his parents. Well, we broke up a year ago because he was moving away to a few towns over and we just didn't feel like the distance would work out. Now, a year later we still talk almost everyday. I want to tell him so bad that I still love him but I'm afraid that he won't feel the samei way. I know that I'm young and I don't know what love is yet but I really do have strong feelings for him. No one else really matters to me but him. Talking about how much I love him makes me want to cry that's how strong it is. Should I tell him how I feel and risk our friendship?
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (29 May 2013):
 I think you’re more afraid of him not feeling the same way and that’s what‘s tormenting you inside? You’re also giving yourself knots over something that hasn’t happened yet… It’s like projecting into the future; this will happen if I say how I feel or this will be risked so I better not say anything… The thing is you won’t know the answer unless you say the words and when you do; have it in mind that he does not have to feel the same way. Guys really don’t cry or ache for the same things or in the same way we girls do. (Remember you only dated a few months and he moved away...)However, you could simply say; how much you value his friendship and that he’s real special to you… That way you hold off on the ‘love’ word without the risk of freaking him out? That way you might get a clue to his feelings from his response :) It’s a lot better than laying it out there and waiting for; I love you too… Take Care – CAA
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