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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I split up with my boyfriend a year and a half ago and he left me with 2 kids and the mortgage to pay. He married after 8 months and has a baby on the way which depresses me no end. Because I struggled financially my home is being repossessed and he's taking care of my kids while I sort it out. He hardly ever let's me see them and I miss them so much. Well I started seeing a man who after a week looked through my facebook messages and found stuff off pervy little men, without sounding full of myself I do get a lot of male attention. He called my a slag on a daily basis, he just expects me to show him my phone. When we argue he just says I start it so I can get all these men in my house. He rang every morning on my way to work and had massive tantrums if I missed my calls. Well one day he humiliated me in the supermarket, called me stupid infront of my kids, being condescending by tapping me on my back saying oh your doing such a good job as mother, being sarcastic. He wouldn't stop putting me down so I slapped him really hard. I felt awful and I shouldn't of done it. He locked me in my bathroom one day and broke my phone then waited for the kids dad and pushed him just to get me in trouble, spoil my chances of getting them back. I ended it with him the other day and he rang 30 times then forced himself in my house screaming at me for over an hour. So I slapped him again. He's saying because I physically touched him I'm the one in the wrong. He keeps saying I'm fake and I don't care about anyone. My life is just a mess cos of the house and kids but he tells me I'm just trying to get sympathy. He won't leave me alone and when he starts putting me down and saying I'm horrible I rise to it and just text a load of abuse. I try being nice but he calls me a liar. I feel so down, what should I say to him to get him to leave me alone. If I ignore him he gets even worse and just forces himself in my house.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (19 August 2012):
 I agree...
Cut all contact and if he comes to your house phone the police and apply for a restraining order.
You are very vulnerable at the moment, try to avoid getting into another relationship until you have gotten the situation with your children sorted out.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (19 August 2012):
 hi
Start taking control of your life and situation.
Ring or go to the Police today, tell them exactly whats happening with this man,show them the texts,call records and tell them he keeps forcing his way into your home. Tell them he is intimidating you, hes stalking you too and your frightened. Do not respond to his texts either.
You should be scared of him too, he is not the sort of man you want around, you will never get to see your children with him in your life.
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (19 August 2012):
 Wow ok. What you do is ignore his rants, don't drop to his level and send abuse back to him through text. Tell him you are done and that's it, no more, stop calling and texting you. Tell him if he comes by your house uninvited and let's himself in you will call the police, and actually do it. If you are serious about getting him out of your life (which you damn well should be) you can make it happen it just may get ugly and have law enforcement involved. Block his number from your phone if you can as well. Take him off your Facebook and email. Block or erase him anywhere you can. Then call the police if he starts showing up or following you. It may be necessary to get a restraining order in effect if he doesn't stop. But no one should be allowed to treat you this way and come in your house berating you as they please. You have enough crap to deal with without adding this psycho into the mix.
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