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writes:ok, so i've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. and things are going great. i love him with all my heart, since way before we got together. but, hes gone through a lot in his past, like abuse, and he was made fun of by the kids his age because he was always the small one,(because of the abuse) but because of all of that, whenever he is upset about something he tends to shut people out. he tells me more than he does anybody else, but i can tell that there is always more that he's not telling me. how do i get him to open up? he already knows that he can trust me with everything. i've proven that to him for years. so, i just don't understand. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys, it means a lot
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reader, Spades  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 Leave him be. He knows that he can trust you. It's up to him. He'll open up when he's ready.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 Give him time. People close up because they are afraid to feel vulnerable again. Let him open up to you at his own pace. If he tells you more than he does everyone else, he obviously really does like you but it has only been 3 month since you started dating, give him time to truly feel comfortable letting himself become that open to you. You're doing well already so don't worry about it, let this relationships progress first.
I hope that helps.
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