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writes:My husband wants to take me on a cruise, but i am struggling with social phobia at the moment and other mental illnesses. I am petrified at the thought of him looking at other women especially around the pool. What do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): Cruise is lot of fun. You don't have to sit around the pool. There are so many diff decks with chairs where u can just gaze up in the blue sky or water.. It's beautiful.. I went on a cruise & I don't even know how to swim so my husband didn't go either to the pool area.. Just passes by couple times but didn't sit around it... Instead spent most time at the uppermost deck
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 If it is an actual phobia, doesn't he know already? Have you discussed this with him at all? Just tell him you don't want to go a cruise. If you haven't already, I urge you to seek professional help for this.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): Are you taking steps to deal with the phobia and other illnesses?What's the worst that could happen if you went on the cruise with him? You'll be with him at the pool, right? He'll probably be more excited to see YOU in a swimsuit or bikini than to see a bunch of strangers. It was his idea after all, to do this with YOU. Would your marriage, his mood, and your mood be better off if you stayed home? Talk to him about how you feel--maybe you can compromise, in terms of specific activities you both will and won't take part in on the cruise. Maybe you and him can stay away from pools (not sure if that's realistic as I haven't been on a cruise...).I think it would help you to go on the cruise, just to do something different with your husband and see some new scenery. But if you are really adamant against going, how about another type of holiday you can take together?
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