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anonymous
writes:HI.i met someone online hes about my age really cute and a lovely guy all around. we talked almost everyday about this or that and it seemed we got on well, he then sent me a naked pic of himself and told me that he only did that for me and he asked for nothing in return. i asked why he did it and the only answer i got was i thought you would like it. so that was fine then we were talking and joking and that was fine also but it still bugged me how he is old fashioned when it comes to relationships but with this it ddnt fit the bill. until recently he hardly talks and when he does its nothing short of a few words. he told me someone had died a close friend and i had the same thing and i said the only thing we could hope for is that their in a better place. to which he said things will be fine in a few days every night he would send me a rose with a good night. on top of this i try to get to know him more personally but he pushes me away its like he invites me in but when i get too close he pushes me away again i think hes a really nice guy with a few issues something to do with an ex. i really get the impression that he likes me but its like were stuck im outside and hes inside. how do i get him to open the door and let me in normally people just open up to me and i can read them like a book thats how i managed to figure that an ex burnt him. but its like hes just closing himself off but then keeps me dangling. now no roses and no good nights. have i done something wrong perhaps pushed him to hard to open up or is it just everythings up in the air and i should wait and see how it pans out.any opinions to figure this out with him without looking like a fool would be greatful thanks in advance LA Reply to this Question
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reader, Guitarist +, writes (15 May 2009):
 if he wanted one in return he wouldn't have said that you dont have to send one back. girls always read these things wrong thats why they break up with guys more than the other war round. (I'm have a rant at the replies by the way). ANYWAY, maybe he just enjoys sending you pics like that, maybe it turns him on? it turns me on sending one of myself. you should have asked for more of them and seen what he said. as for him being distant, give him a couple of days then txt him but dont sound like you're being clingy or whatever, just so he knows you care but tell him you'll leave it with him and when hes ready to talk he knows where you are.
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reader, Honest_Answers +, writes (14 May 2009):
 Did you ever meet this guy or was it all online? It sounds like he was keen and was trying to get sexy pics of you (even though he said he wasn't) and when he wasn't getting what he wanted he went cold and made excuses.
I'd leave him well alone and focus on finding someone more genuine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): dear La,
I think he wants you to have sex with him on camera - which is why he sent the photo. its a gesture that bounces the ball into your court. You deflected it back with dignity.
so now he feels a little stupid. But if he is serious he will wait.
you can get him to open up by talking to him more. seeing what he likes, etc. ask how he felt when the friend died.
star.x.
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