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writes:Okay well my girlfriend and i have been going out for 8 months now and everything is going amazing. But when we first started dating it took her a couple months just to trust me in the least little bit and she has been constantly afraid that i am going to hurt her. Her past boyfriends were total jerks to her and only wanted to get in her pants but she refused and they left her or she dumped them. She finally realized that sex isn't what i was in this relationship for and started trusting me a little bit more. Now that we are starting to fool around a bit more, i am constantly worried that i am going to do something that will make her lose trust in me. Everytime i do something, i know it might sound dumb but i will ask her if it is ok (ex. Is it okay if i touch you here?) I am constantly worried that she will get the wrong message although she says its all okay and she likes it. What do i do? And the second question is that her friend just broke up with her boyfriend of 1 year 9 months and now she thinks that is going to happen to us and she thinks because she is my first steady girlfriend that i will lose interest in her and want to go explore other people. But we both love eachother to death and i would never leave or hurt her. How do i get her to believe me?
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reader, Emzy1591  +, writes (21 October 2007):
 I think maybe you should talk to her. Promise her you will never hurt her and tell her to tell u when she feels uncomfortable. That way she may feel more in control and so she can push the buttons and it will prevent her from getting hurt as shes the one in control. Do you see where im coming from?Just sit her down and have a very very big chat. It wont take away all the bad experiences but it might help the trust issues. xx
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