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writes:hey guys, this mite sound a bit strange...but here goes...so, iv been in a relationship with an amazing guy for almost a year and a half. he makes me so happy its unbelievable. we enjoy each others company, we love each other, and we have a good sex life. but recently, i havent been as attracted to him as i used to be. Dont get me wrong....to me he's still gorgeous...but there's just something missing...is this bad? any ideas on how to get back the missing thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): Your relationship is progressing to the next stage.Take on interests,hobbies indulge yourself in learning new things. Then come out of that world back into his.This can be done within say a week Sunday to yourself.You have been living in one anothers pockets.This is where most folks bail out and think the love/magic has gone. Don't be fooled it just the next stage.Have you ever been fishing together? A picnic and bottle of wine.Use your imagination.Ever danced naked in the rain?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): spend some time apart, don't break up, but make a diliberate effort to not see each other for say a week or so, with no contact, but set a date for after that week's through, you'll have loads to talk about, and if you don't end up in bed together having the most passionate sex of your relationship, then you'll go home alone and sit up all night thinking about what a great day it was. You'll get that feeling you get when you first meet somebody. I regularly do this with my girlfriend, some people advise against it, but it works really well with us, as long as you both understand that you aren't breaking up, and that it isn't a sign that there's something wrong with the relationship, and you understand that the week isn't for flirting around with other people and having it off with everything that moves it'll work amazingly, because you won't have been able to vent any of your passion through the week, and you'll feel amazing when you see eachother.
And finally, don't worry too much if you do this and you still don't get that feeling, it doesn't mean anything is wrong with your relationship.
Another thing you could try to do is take an interest in some of the things they really enjoy doing, if your boyfriend plays guitar, ask him to teach you a little, if you like writing poetry show him some of it, maybe even get him to try writing a little.
Try doing things you wouldn't ordinarily do as well, cook a meal together, even if the two of you can't cook, spend a weekend away somewhere only to spend the entire weekend in bed together seeing none of the scenary.
If all this fails, again don't worry, it really doesn't mean anything, it just means you're comfortable, and most importantly, your mindframe will determine a lot of this, if you meet up desperately wanting this feeling, you'll never get it, you need to go, meet up, and have a truly honest experience together, with no expectations, it's the only way to be surprised which is one of the only ways to get that feeling.
Hope this helps
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reader, Skeez +, writes (27 December 2008):
 No I dont feel its bad. Ive been with my guy for almost 2 years. And I look at him thinking hes the most gorgeous man alive, but I dont get that same spark I useed to when I saw him. I think its normal and just a sign that your becoming comfortable with the relationship and him.
I was going to suggest spice up your love life a bit or sex life, but it seems as though youve still got that all intact well. Perhaps there are some things you can do to regain the impression you used to have on him, like taking showers together, or going out for a romantic dinner.
I havent been able to get those feelings back for my boyfriend. Those tingly shivers you get when you see him and etc. But dont worry to much about it love. Things will be fine.
Goodluck
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