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writes:I am just wondering if you have any ideas on how to talk to a girl alone. Thanks to the answers on the last 2 questions i posted (how can i make a move without embarrassing either of us and what is meant by make my move), I have decided that when we go back 2 school after half term, i am going to ask her out. I think i can deal with it if she rejects me, the problem is, as i mentioned before, she is never alone, even when i walk home with her, either mine or her mates are there. I know if there are other people then i will get embarrassed and she will be pressured to say no cuz tbh I am a bit of a swat. That's not to say that i am some sort of socially isolated freak, i get on well with most people, but i am certainly not the coolest guy to be seen with. I know that if she really likes me this won't matter, but i am sure that if i ask her with other people around she'll say know. Any advice on how to get her alone. Please note that i want to ask her face-to-face, not over the internet, as it's more romantic that way. She knows i like her cuz the poem in the Valentine's card i sent had a romantic poem in. She didn't avoid me after this though so is this a good sign. Finally, i know she must have shown my mates (and hers) the card, as my mate confirmed it was my handwriting and her mates confronted me and when me and my aforementioned mate got out of the car on thursday (we were going on a school trip), my mate looked at my crush looked at each other and laughed. I know i should be mad at her 4 showing everyone the card, but is it a good sign that she's not embarrassed at recieving this card? Finally, (no really this time), i get on really well with one of her mates, dunno if she knows about the card or not, she wasn't on the trip on thursday or the trip on tuesday (which i didn't attend) when they must have discussed this card. Should i ask her for advice on whether she likes. I've put it off before cuz i didn't want ppl to know who i like, but everyone knows now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): Hi guys,
I'm the original poster, thanks for all your comments, I'll try the ideas you mentioned on Monday. Wish me luck !!!!
Also, I'd like to apologise for the terrible spelling and grammar in the question, having re-read it it is very confusing and there is loads of spelling mistakes. Anyway, i'll keep you guys posted on how it goes.
Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): Don't text her to ask her, or type anything over the internet, because that's when she'll play games and spread it to all her friends, just to look cool. If you don't feel comfortable going to her house and asking her out, you're going to have to tell one of your friends to hit the road for five minutes so you can try to get a word in edge-wise with her. If she acts too cool for you, than she's not worth it, because she's more worried about what her friends think of her. You can try asking her a couple of different times, but then if she still won't just quit before she calls you a stalker or a perve. Don't be afraid to ask her out, though, because she might just like you the same. Don't think of yourself as a twat just because of how school kids act. They'll all think they're cooler than each other, even their own best friends, behind their back, because of raging hormones. If you try a couple times and she rejects you just wait a year or more and try again, when she might have matured more or feels more secure with dating people. Alot of girls at your age are still weary of dating and will giggle helplessly when approached or challenged, so it's okay if she just acts goofy anyway, with you. Don't feel like a chump if she lets you down fast. Good luck, but remember not to spout about her or your time together too much, if you end up getting together, because friends are brutal at that age.
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reader, Chantelle x +, writes (19 February 2010):
 You could go down the route through her friend, but i personally think that you should just ask her out right. When i was your age, i fell madly for a lad but like you didnt know how to talk to him or what to say as i was quite shy. I started by just waiting for him after school or trying to see him on lunches or breaks etc. He eventually got what i was trying to do and we spoke for the first time and had so much in common, and believe it or not we are still together to this day and we are happily engaged.You could always get her number off her friend and call her and ask her if she wants to meet up. What ever route you choose, good luck.
Hope my advice has been alittle helpful x
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