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writes:I LIED. How do I live with myself? I live with my boyfriend and a male roommate. My roommate recently rekindled a relationship with an ex-fiance, while hiding it from his current girlfriend. The current girlfriend showed up unnannounced and I lied to her and said that my roommate wasn't home, per his request. She asked me if he was seeing someone else and I told her "not to my knowledge." I told my roommate to deal with this situation and to be straight up with this woman. I hated being put in that situation. I am a horrible liar and she is not stupid. She knew that I was lying. She is a nice lady and does not deserve this type of treatment from him or me. What do I do to rectify the matter? How do I forgive myself for being a lying bitch?
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reader, mama2three +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Apologize to her, and refuse to lie for your roommate ever again. If she hasn't found out about his new romance, tell him that either he comes clean, or you will!
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Hi,
I agree with Peoriaman, it was a quick decision that was made and in this situation many other people would have done the same thing. Forgive yourself because it was not you that was cheating on her, it was him and it isn't really your job to tell her. If you hadn't lied you would still have been very much caught up in this anyway. I think you did the right thing to tell him to deal with this on his own from now, and to never ask you to lie for him again. Make it clear to him that if this happens again, you will not lie and just let her in. That way he will have to take responsibility for his own actions. And if/when she finds out you have been lying you should tell her just what you told us here, she will understand and anyway probably be more mad with him who actually did the bad deed. Forgive yourself now and next time be prepared and do the right thing!
Also, you could always tell her the truth right away...
Good luck!
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