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writes:My girlfriend is coming over to my house today. She might give me a hand/blowjob for the first time. I might also finger/rub her. Need some advice though as to what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): Not gonna lie, fingering isnt great for us girls.. well personally I dont really enjoy it cos I cant feel much! Buttttt... if these idiot boys would not ignore the clitorus (little bump at the front) it would be so much better.
The clitorus is basically a mini penis, so when she touches your penis, it feels great yeah? Well theres not many nerves in the vagina, but tonnes in the clit.
Dont rush it, nothing worse thant a guy just pinning you and sticking his hand down there. Build up to it, rub up and down her leg, then miss that area, and go to her tummy, then back... tease her :)
The best is if you can slip your hand down the front of her pants, palm facing her, use your index and forfinger to actually finger her (maybe just one to start) and rub her clit with your thumb. May take practice :)
And despite what the others say, I dont think your too young. Lets face it, im 16 and tbh everyone is having sex atm, and thats just our generation. I think you need to start with stuff like this at 14/15 and build up to it..
Good luck :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): I've never fingered myself, but I guess this: rub her outer lips first by using your hand, then "tickle" her gently using the middle finger? Don't push it in.. At least not until you know that she likes what you are doing.
Also one more thing: I never liked being fingered unless it was just for foreplay. Its boring, doesn't really feel good either. What I like more is getting "rubbed" with the hand, pressing against me, and not inside me at all. That way you stimulate the clitoris.
All in all, don't expect it to be any good. It's very difficult to please a woman this way and especially when you've never done it before. She might get you off, but if your goal is to make her cum you'll have to do this to her many many many times before you get even close.
If you do end up wanting to explore her insides with your fingers, use only one.
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (13 December 2009):
Not the answer you're looking for: considering your age listed, don't you think your need to ask this question says something about how ready you are? You're 13-15. I'm going to be 16 next month. I know I'm not ready for a step like that, are you? Sure, yes it will feel good. But once your relationship goes to that physical level, your girl will feel attached to you in a chemical way that your body isn't capable of--it's a female hormone.
I'm not trying to tell you not to do it, I'm trying to tell you to be careful with her emotions. From a mature standpoint, are you intellectually ready?
Please just think about what I said.
Be prepared, if you do finger her and she gives you a bj, things may get out of what you predicted. Be prepared!
--GG
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