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*ruce lee
writes:It's me again. I have been feeling kind of depressed lately and I don't know what to do about it. But my question is...How do I find the inspiration to want a relationship ever?With most people, it comes naturally to want a relationship. But I am not like that. I could only ask a woman out if I thought she was very special. Sometimes, I wonder if I have no sexuality.I have anger management issues as well. I don't like it when women play hard to get, and I don't like being rejected. I have an introverted personality.I don't know what to do. Are there any books on this subject I can read?
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reader, bruce lee +, writes (27 January 2011):
bruce lee is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks realgirlnextdoor. I understand that I have to deal with my anger management issues and move on from the past. I blame some of my problems on my dad who is an alcoholic. He whinges about everything and puts people down.
I think as we get older, we worry less about the past. We accept life for what it is and we don't hold grudges.
Whether or not I ever meet the right woman for me is still uncertain. But I have to force myself to keep a positive attitude whatever happens.
It's easy to become pessimistic when we don't get what we want. But it's not a good attitude.
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reader, RealGirlNextDoor  +, writes (26 January 2011):
Dear Bruce Lee.It will always sound as a cliché, but love is something that comes naturally, you know when you've found someone that you're going to like (same interests etc.). But sometimes you just need to go out with someone you'd never give a chance to, because maybe, just maybe, that person is right for you.It's always a good idea to meet new people, chat with different people to realise what you're looking for in a partner and to give others (and yourself) a chance to show your true colours and personality.Taking into account your anger management issues I believe that is something you should try to get proessional help with, i for one believe that getting the help that is needed form the right people is always better than trying to deal with the problems yourself.Also, you have to take into account that being rejected is something that happens to everyone and is part of the process, you're not going to like everyone you meet and neither are they, you have to be open and UNDERSTAND that being rejected isn't something terrible, but something we can either learn from or learn to accept.Sincerely I would try and meet new people and not worry about not having found the perfect partner yet, you're still young and love comes when the time is right, although sometimes you have to help it find it's way to you. Try get profesional help for all the rest, a healthy mind means a healthy relationship.
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