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writes:I have recently tried to find myself a Prom date for my senior year. I have ahd the toughest time finding one because my old friend group fell apart and the few girls that I know have already been asked and the prom is still another month and a half away. Some background on myself, I am what most consider as a nice guy, one that is loyal and is very friendly. I am not the most fit person around, being an offensive lineman has some perks, but more cons than that, and I feel as though that does not help with my confidence.I am at times scared and intimidated by girls and feel as though I am not good enough to talk to a girl, that is my first obstacle. I have been to social events like parties and stuff with girls, but i have found myself not really talking to girls but more talking to guys.I guess this long question boils down to how do I find the courage to approach and ask a girl to prom. (p.s I'm not looking like I met you tonight lets go to prom, i'm looking for a hay whats up, wanna hang out, wanna go to prom sort of approach.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): You could just write her note like "hey, we get along really well and I would like to take you to prom! Here's my number ...... Let me know : )" and give it to her as you pass her in the corridor or something?!
Bit cheesy but some girls would find it sweet to be able to keep the moment she was asked to prom! Probably best to try this if u know the girl definately doesn't have a date already or could be awkward!
Maybe when you're next out with your guy friends and a girl you like is in her group of friends, take your whole group over just to have a general chat but you can focus on her. She's got the security if having her friends close and so have you! Then you've broken the ice to go chat to her again but next time alone.
Good luck!
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (28 March 2012):
 I completely understand that asking a girl out to go to a prom is a huge thing. And if you believe that you don't have good luck, or a decent amount of experience, it can be discouraging. But my advice to you is to JUST DO IT. Just approach a girl. Don't worry so much about rejection. Just tell yourself that each person that says no is leading you one step closer to the girl that will say YES. And instead of thinking of reasons why a girl may say no to you... think of reasons why she would say yes. And truly BELIEVE that you're worth dating. Here are some articles that I feel would be very beneficial for you to read....http://www.dearcupid.org/question/need-a-confidence-booster.htmlhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-approach-a-girlthe-right-way.htmlhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-create-great-conversations-on-a-date.htmlBest of luck!
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reader, JaneSmith2012  +, writes (28 March 2012):
 looks like your're a perfect prom nite date material !! :) :) You say people think you are friendly and loyal ... though you may be an offensive line man,it will actually help you get recognised and wont come in your way unless you wanna date a defender's gf :) ... Plus you have one and a half month for your prom nite and that's a looooooooong time .. The thing is you're just feeling a bit shy ...I guess you'll have a fair idea of girls who have not been asked out yet .. If you around well enough you might find that a few girls may be in the same situation as you are (nice friendly ,shy type ).Make friends with a nice girl..Start talking to her casually .Just be yourself .Spend a few days getting to know her and then ask her out.If you are really the kind of guy as you have described yourself in the message ,trust me she'll definitely say yes .Besides there are quite a lot of girls who prefer the shy nice well mannered kinda guy over the loud , popular hunky ones ...
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